He loves TWO women?!?
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| Wed, 02-22-2006 - 8:51pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for two years, living together for one. We are each others best friends. We had plans to marry, have kids, the whole nine yards. I honestly thought he was "the one." I never thought we had problems, because well, we didn't. His ex moved back into town a month ago. They hung out as friends, and now he tells me that he still loves her...but he still had feelings for me. We broke up, because obviously he needs to decide who he wants to be with. What makes it hard is, I am still in love with him--and we live together. I can't afford to live on my own, i work part time and am still in school. I also don't have any close family. He told me I can stay there, and he still cares about me. I understand that he needs to explore his feelings for his ex. Because we can never move on until he is POSITIVE I'm the one he wants. But it's sp hard! I know I need to move on, holding onto him is only going to make it worse! But I literally have no option but to live with him. I moved to this city for him, I have no close friends to crash with...I feel stuck. I love him with all my heart, but he is in love with two women!!! How is this even possible????? HELP!!!
Danielle

TWO only? I have loved more women than King Solomon. Sorry, bad joke.
Seriously, it is indeed possible for a man to love more than one woman ( I guess it also can be happen in reverse ) but he will always love only one woman above all the others unless that man is just a sex addict who cares about nothing except fulfilling his/her own lusts and sees everyone of the opposite sex as just someone else to use for their own sexual pleasure.
For example, in the Bible we read of men having multiple wives but that does not mean that God approved of it. In almost every instance it created a rivalry among the wives for the husband's affections and the husband usually showed favoritism toward one in particular above the others. As for King Solomon, he loved many women and had over 700 wives and concubines but he was living in disobedience to the commandment of God. God's ordained plan and will is ONE man and ONE woman to be joined together until death separates them. If you do not seek God's will in the matter before you marry you may end up in a bad marriage or after you marry you may end up meeting someone you wish you had waited for.
Edited 2/23/2006 11:50 pm ET by throughtheringer
I'm sorry your boyfriend has suddenly dropped such a bomb on you.