is he playing games???

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Registered: 07-31-2007
is he playing games???
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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 1:54am

It was a month ago when we broke up. And i more or less had gotten used to the fact that he won't be in my life anymore. But then guess what? He called at 6am (when i was fast asleep might i add) and i picked up the phone because i didn't know who it was. Then i heard his voice and he pleaded me to give him a chance to speak.

Just like the movies, he began saying how much he missed me and it was a mistake and he is so sorry. That he still loves me so much and realises what i mean to him...and asked me to give him another chance.

He also sent me a whole load of messages saying the same thing. To give him a chance to prove that he has changed. That he loves me so much that he can't hold it in anymore. He knows that he was wrong and he is sorry he wasn't clear and truthful enough in the relationship.

I did reply his messages saying that i don't trust him anymore.That i'm so afraid of him because he seems capable of changing how he feels whenever it pleases him.

The pain and hurt he caused me is so deep and the weeks without him was the worst phase of my entire life and a couple of sweet messages from him is not going to erase what i went through.

But at this moment, i think he thinks that i'm forgiving him and am going to give him another chance because he said he is looking forward to meeting and talking with me this week.

Honestly..i'm so torn at the moment. One part wants me to just continue walking. And the other can't help but think..what if he really does regret his actions and is genuine about his feelings towards me.

Should i give him another chance? Dare i take the risk? Or just tell him that i have moved on and he should too..

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Registered: 09-26-2004
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 3:18am

Hi Ann,

How are you? Your story is almost same as what I have faced now.
To forgive them, take that risk that we will be hurt again or go on with your life and happy that he finally realised it is the big mistakes they made.I don't know the whole story of yours how you break up and why.But trully sometime deep in me tells me not to accept them anymore. I might wana share my story if it is ok.

Right now my ex is considering to take me back after he dumped me for someone that he thought the one with a mature look,at last when they met face to face at same city as she move to the city where we are now..he nows understands she is different than I am..they argued everyday, she control him and he is no longer himself like he used to be.She is different because she likes to go fancy and expensive place to eat and shop, selfish didnt take care of him as real gf and even cook a can food only.Thats what he say to me.I think because of money only.Eventhough she plan of celebrating new year with his family later on.

Now he is so sad and ask for my advice and wanting to come back to me.He dumped me because he thought we are not serious and i'm not serious with him.However we been together for 1 year till it happened on my birthday.Before this happened I was planning to go back for holiday and he thought i'm going back with my Ex there.Thats y he is sad and did that decisions.After broken heart and takes time to recover within 1 month I feel ok yet he called me wanting us back.I talked to him because he is alone and sad,Because he always helped me during hard time,I listen to his problem even its hurts me.

Asking myself what should I do?Deep in me I don't want him anymore but he is my soul mate this while.He is the most understanding man that I have that love me before,wanted to marry me.Yet the dream swept away by his behaviour.I think I lost my luv for him.Because I pray to god to forget him for good.What should we do ann?

Ask your heart and evaluate why you two break up.If you feel happy that he is gone and you can start your new life.You must tell him your decisions.Don't keep it too long.It takes time and killing us more.Just like me now.Hanging..I will tell him what I think when times is right.He is still with her.waiting for the right time to break up with her.

I'm afraid If I accept him again, he will do the same.Its scares me..Now this become 2 problem.anyway I'll keep in touch with you.What you think ann?Tkcr.bye.All the best to u and me:)

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 7:19pm

Welcome to the board ann_k18,


These boards are pretty slow on the weekends and I only have a few minutes online today....so I wanted to give you a link to some good info:


Getting Back Together