He says....

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Registered: 01-05-2007
He says....
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 3:02am
He said he loved me more than ill ever understand...But he doesnt love me anymore..Can that kind of love just fade, just end? Even over time does that kind of love ever really end?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: angel4259
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 12:05pm

Love has to be nurtured for it to continue on, to grow and to be felt. Usually when someone's feelings change, it's gradual over time, due to needs not being met, not being heard, not being accepted, not sharing emotionally, intimately, and resentment build. Love is not a lightswitch. Though it can appear that way, if the distance one is feeling emotionally isn't shared and expressed, and instead it's repressed due to a fear of facing what's happening.

So yes, his feelings could change.


Carrie

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Registered: 11-29-2006
In reply to: angel4259
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 12:59pm
To answer your question, yes, it's unfortunate but feelings can change. Someone very dear to me said the exact same thing. One day he said, I don't love you anymore, and was out of my life and seeing someone new instantly. I was devastated, and in a lot of ways I still am hurting. He told me he had been feeling uncertain about us for a couple months though his actions never showed it. He thought keeping it to himself would fix it, but it only made it worse. Unfortunately, that's probably what happened in your case too. Like itwinflame said, love must be nurtured. If something is wrong it needs to be addressed. Sadly, he chose not to address it. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Just know that you aren't alone. It hasn't even been two months for me, but it does get better, I promise.
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Registered: 10-09-2006
In reply to: angel4259
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 5:25pm
This is very encouraging because when you're in it you don't think it will ever get better, but it does.