He is sending mixed signals- help!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2007
He is sending mixed signals- help!!
2
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 12:08pm

My boyfriend and I broke up in June after having dated long-distance for 6 months. (we'd also dated 2 years ago) Everything was wonderful until mid-May, about 3 weeks after our last visit with each other when he also dropped the "L-word" for the first time. He began to pick fights and distance himself from me. For the next 2 weeks, we spoke maybe 3 times over the phone and went days without any contact. Back in April he'd planned a trip for us to go back to my home state and visit my family in June. By the time June 1st arrived, he was avoiding my calls, texts and pleas for answers. About 2 hours before I boarded my plane to go home for the trip HE planned, he called to tell me he never got on his plane! His reason: "we weren't even talking." (yeah, we weren't talking because HE was avoiding me!!!) I was beyond devastated. I told him on that phone call that it was over-- what the hell else was I supposed to say?!?!

I didn't want to break up with him but I felt his actions were speaking loud enough, practically begging me to break up with him. Over the last 2 months, he has continued to text message me saying that he's just trying to be my friend. The longest he's let me go without hearing from him has been 2 weeks, then he just reappeared with texts. I have asked him repeatedly to either call or leave me alone. I'm sick of this text message crap. It is totally screwing with my emotions.

This is a guy who is so emotional that he cried after our first arguement. Since we broke up, he has not shown ANY emotion. We have only spoken twice since the break up.

I have NO idea why he keeps texting me!!! If he truly cared about me, wouldn't he call?? Should I change my phone number?? I have tried to call him to get to the bottom of this, but he's avoided calling me back. I'm just so exhausted. I don't know what else to do.

Avatar for northwestwanderer
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 12:31pm

Yes, change your phone number if you can't block him from texting you. He's just trying to keep from feeling bad about putting you in the position he did. Don't allow his guilt to keep you from moving on.

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 1:37pm

Welcome to the board try2smile,


::I have asked him repeatedly to either call or leave me alone.


Then you need to delete the text messages without reading them.