He Is Unbelieveable!!!!

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Registered: 12-02-2005
He Is Unbelieveable!!!!
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 10:50pm
Hey all,
I was just on the phone with a friend me and my ex are mutual with. Just to get it out of the way, I didn't call the friend to find out about my ex. Anyway, the friend was telling me that my ex has been bad mouthing me and telling everyone that I left for no reason whatsoever! He's trying to make it sound like he's a victim. Luckly, the friend told my ex that our problems were our problems and he wasn't going to take sides and he didn't want to hear it. That was cool and I figured he would say that, but he did seem stand offish at first because he thought I wanted him to get involved.
Anyway I'm just furious that he's doing this! He wanted me to leave, he didn't want to be with me anymore and now he's pissed at ME for it! It doesn't make sense! This gives me another reason to stick to the NC rule. It's been a month and 8 days, I'm definatly not ever getting back together with him, I can't.
I'm sorry but I just needed to vent because I'm pissed and yet sad about the way he's still treating me. AND I'M NOT EVEN THERE!! Has anyone else's ex done this to them? Thanks for letting me vent.
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Registered: 12-12-2005
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 1:12pm

yes. i've been broken up with my boyfriend since mid october but we didnt start NC till the end of nov, so its been about the same time.

HE broke upwith me...he told me he couoldnt give me what i deserved/needed...HE said he didnt want to be tied down anymore because "he is in college and doesn't want to regret being in arelationship"
yet he got mad at me when he asked me about my life and i was moving on. after i declared that i couldnt talk to him for awhile, he immediatly put things up on his profile to make me jealous, like a picture of him hugging this girl, and public messages to girls about how he "had a good time last night."
this is like 3 days after he was crying to me about how "if we kept hanging out, we'll probably havea better chance of getting back together."

so yeah. he initiated everything even though he claimed to still be very much in love with me. and HE was the one rubbing everything in my face trying to make me jealous.

how selfish. he knew this breakup devastated me, yet still had to do stuff like that. makes me wonder how i fell in love with someone like this...

so yes i totally relate with the anger and sadness. fortunately for me, the only real way of knowing whats going on in his life is through his web profile and i can resist the urge to look at it(well, i've been workin on it anyway). you have to deal with mutual friends (we pretty much kept our circles of friends-i was friends with his friends, but not to the point where i have kept contact with them). stay strong and try to avoid conversations about him. it sounds like you are doing great. :)

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 7:16pm
Who cares what he says..u know the truth..that's all that matters..and this is proof why it was good it's over...he has a lot of growing up to do..and u have a lot of living to do...move on...