he uses me--now he is moving to sweden!!
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| Sun, 07-30-2006 - 5:43pm |
he uses me for sex, and then say i start it...not true i don't say no thou coz i miss him and don't want him to forget me.
tomorrow he moves to sweden, i know i have lost him forever as bf,but i still want him in my life.am i freak??
why was it so easy for him to stop loving me in 1 mouth and i still love him 3 mouths later how does that work please help!!
i go around in cirles when we talk,i don't know how to act around him.,....so i just ask the same things.he says i am beging an emotional police,and i am!!!! f##k i am not normallly like this.
he useed to say that maybe this wasn't forever...and he doesn't know but how he says i should give up hope,so why is he still sleeping with me,i knows what i am like and i even told him am seeing a shrink and he still does it...and i let him what the f##k am i playing at!!!

Honey, he's not using you. You're allowing him to have sex with you. You say you don't say "no" because you want him to remember you. Yes, he'll remember you as the woman who allowed him to have sex without a committment. The guy told you from the start that "this wasn't for ever". You chose to stay with him. Why? I dont know.
The simple way to stop this is by you saying "no more sex" and have a good trip to Sweden. This way he can't use you for sex anymore. You won't be a willing participant. Hon, forget about this guy and move on. The guy is in for the sex.
You're making the same mistake a LOT of women have made,
i see what u mean.but i miss him so i don't say no,i figure if i see no i will never see him again.
so what do?
i miss him o i don't say no.
he would walk away from me soo eay and so quick if i let him.....we wouldn't even look back.
so how do i get him to respect me.??
I highly recommend you buy and read a book entitled "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov.
Good luck.
Sweetie, this man doesn't respect you at all because you don't have limits to his actions. He says jump and you jump, and you even ask how high? See, he uses your body for sex and you think that by allowing him to use your body he'll stay with you. In one thing you're right, as long as he's in the area he'll come back to you for more of the same. You seem very naiive so you think that sex will get you what you want from him, BUT he has his own agenda. He'll enjoy the sex with you, BUT as soon as he gests to Sweden he'll forget about you and will find another girl to have sex with. Honey, say no more sex and I assure you that he'll try to manipulate the situation OR even may threaten to leave you. He wants his needs met and you make it very easy for him.
Setting boundaries and enforcing them will bring you the respect you deserve.