He walked out / I don't want him back

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Registered: 01-01-2007
He walked out / I don't want him back
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 7:11pm

I've been in a long term relationship. We have been having problems and conflicts. This Saturday night there was a BIG argument. He was cursing at me calling me a f***ing ungrateful bitch (whenever there is a conflict he likes calling me that)- This weekend with all the cursing I thought he was going to hit me also, he made a fist and pulled back his arm like he was going to hit me. I told him he has to leave now. He left. His last words to me was I am loosing him. I am fed up with him and this relationship, I don't want him back.

It's been a real miserable relationship, he comes over only Saturday night, he doesn't call during the week. I hope he doesn't show up. I don't want to see him anymore. But what if he rings my buzzer like nothing happened, (he's done it before). When he ran out of my apartment, he said I am loosing him (I ONLY HOPE SO, it would make it easier).

But what if he shows up Saturday night, I am soooooo done with him. I don't want to see him anymore.

If he shows up at my door, what do I do, what do I say to him.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 7:17pm

You don't answer the door and you tell him you are calling the police if he doesn't leave immediately.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-22-2007
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 7:32pm

Give him the same respect he gives you! :)

Tell him he's a f****** ungrateful prick and you don't want to ever see him again.

Seriously... he's not worth it.

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Registered: 03-22-2005
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 9:43pm

Don't be there on Saturday night. Go to dinner and a movie with a friend or even go to a bookstore and read for the evening.

If he has a key to your apartment, change the locks.

And if he ever shows up unannounced, don't reply to him at all. If he contacts you again he will WANT to get under your skin, he'll do anything for a reaction, so don't give him the satisfaction. Don't say a word.