He wants me to tell him what's wrong...
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| Tue, 02-27-2007 - 3:59pm |
So we still talk. Its not as often. If you read my story we were engaged but we broke up because his ex is keeping his son from him. We are long distance. We still love each other. We are still friends...or trying to be.
Today he calls and we chat about normal things like always. My best friend and I are not really speaking because in her own way she's tired of hearing about it. Or at least tired of seeing me upset which is fine. I understand no one wants to see their friend a weepy crying mess. But when I spoke to her last and I asked if she wanted to know what was going on she groaned and said "Ugh, go ahead" very huffy. So we haven't spoken in almost a week except for yesterday briefly.
So today when he called and he kept asking me how I was, I kept avoiding the question he asked if I was going to the spa with my friend, as we were booked for that but because of a snow storm it was cancelled. i told him, her and I weren't really speaking and he asked why and I tried to side step it and just move the conversation along but he kept probing and finally I said she didn't want to hear about him anymore. He got upset and asked me to call him later. I don't want to be all whiney and weepy on the phone with him so I didn't want to say anything but he kept pushing. I don't know what to do. he is really my best friend and I tell him everything and even though we can't be together if I had to cut him out completely I just don't know how to recover from that. I just don't know how to handle this situation, I don't know what to do.

Sun, he's made his decision and by lingering you are putting off the inevitable.
I broke up with the guy that was my best friend. Things had gone from wonderful to awful and I was feeling bad about myself. We stayed friends since we were both hoping that we would get back together. I was hoping putting a little space between us and allowing him to work out whatever issues he had would eventually bring us back together.
Things had been really great between us, we were getting along great and were going to take a spring break trip when he tells me last week that he is seeing someone new. I had planned to talk to him about getting back together on this trip.
Moral of the story. Don't stay friends it will probably really hurt you when you find out he is seeing someone else. That is why I am hurting now.
This part: "I know that it has to be an extremely hard decision to choose between the person you love and your child."
From what you wrote, I've never saw it this way.
I really, really am trying to see this from every angle. And yes I am putting myself first it might not seem like it from what I am saying but in my mind I know that I won't continue this if I think in anyway that he's not completely committed to me and to us. but I can't just give up because he made a mistake. If he chooses to correct the mistake than we have a shot if he doesn't than I am no worse off than right now.