He wants to talk

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Registered: 05-23-2004
He wants to talk
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 7:13am
He called last night, well this morning at 1, and asked if wecan get together talk. I said yes. I do want to, but I am afraid that it might lead to a fight. What do y'all think of this?
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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: megsumd
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 1:59pm
Well what I want to know is, WHY did he call at 1am? Had he been drinking? Had he been out with friends, out on a date, what?

My first instinct is to say - forget it - if he has to call at 1am to ask you to "talk" then something isn't right. He can call at 5, or 6, or 8 or 9, but 1am????

If you feel it will lead to a fight - don't go.

If he was just getting off of work at 1am, or just flew into town at 1am, then I'd say, see what he has to say.

BUT I have had MANY a drunk phone call, or a "I was out on a date and it didn't go as well as planned" phone calls at crazy hours in the night, only to be let down when the "talk" wasn't "I love you and want you back and am willing to work on us together".

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Registered: 10-22-2004
In reply to: megsumd
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 1:47am
Make sure if you decide to talk to him, your mentally ready and prepared. If your nervous wreck and emotionally weak, then don't do it. Talk to him, when your ready. If your not ready, and you guys fight, and if the meeting is disappointing, your going to be mad at yourself, and that delays your healing process. Hey, I've been waiting for 7 weeks for my "friend" to call me and say those words, so at least yours is willing, and who cares what time he called. If you care, ask him, why he called so late. Guys do things different, I remember calling my friend that late at night, because I was drunk and that was the only time I got the nerve to call. You do things when you feel the time is right, if you question his intentions, ask him. That may of been the time he had the nerve to do it, because he knew you were sleep, and he knew the call would catch you off guard.Good luck, and keep us posted, especially if you spoke to him. DON'T FORGET, TO TALK TOO HIM WHEN YOUR READY, IT WILL MAKE IT EASY FOR YOU TO HANDLE WHATEVER HAPPENS!