He won't leave me alone

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Registered: 01-17-2005
He won't leave me alone
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Mon, 01-24-2005 - 12:57pm

i just broke up with my boyfriend of two years, about 3 days ago. He's taking it really really hard. he won't talk to anybody. He's calling me 4-5 times a day. he's having his mom and his brothers calling me. Apparently he's written a suicide note...i know he loved me and thought we'd be together for ever....

I have a guy friend, whom my ex thinks I am getting with...he's been calling my friends houses, asking for the guys phone number and his address...he called my brother and got the number and called my friend twice...i can't escape him. When I broke up with him, I made it perfectly clear that I didn't want to go out with again..ever. but he keeps asking for a second chance ,saying that he can change (even though i broke up with him because i was unhappy, not because he did anything wrong). he's being very persistent..to the point where I am having my calls screened, only being home when i know he won't randomly show up. he's making it very hard on me. i know he's hurt..but i don't want to go back out with him.

please someone..anyone..with any kind of advice or opinion..i would appreciate it. i'm not sure what to do

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Registered: 10-05-2003
Mon, 01-24-2005 - 1:56pm

Hi danuka,

I'm sorry that you're going through this & I wish I had some words of advice for you!!! Hopefully within a few days things will calm down & the phone calls will stop. I can't believe his mom & brothers are calling you too?!?!?

If it continues though.... I would not hesitate to get the police involved to file a complaint for harrassment. Let's hope it doesn't come to that!!!!

Best of luck,
Sara

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-24-2005 - 2:00pm

Normally I would advise blocking him from calling you and ignoring him, but this has escalated to a somewhat scary point. I would call him and FIRMLY tell him that he is NOT to call you or any of your friends or relatives again, or you will call the police. Then, if he calls you ONE more time, follow through and call the police. Keep records of the times he's called you.

You also need to call his mother and brothers and tell them the same thing.

If he threatens suicide again, call the police and let them deal with it. It is NOT your fault or responsibility.

Good luck, and I'm sorry you're having to go through this.

Sheri