He Wont Leave Me Alone!

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Registered: 08-14-2004
He Wont Leave Me Alone!
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Sat, 08-14-2004 - 4:12am
I'm having some problem with an ex. Ever since I told him to get out of my life, he won't leave me alone. He finds me almost everywhere. It's no more hide and seek 'cause he's found me. I mean I haven't talked to him at all after I told him that I wanted him out of my life, but he still comes at me.

For years he's pressuring me for sex. But this time he's pushed the envelope. He's said that he was coming to visit me here in Portland, Oregon. Here's the thing though, I've moved on, but he still doesn't get it. He said he was coming and that he didn't want to see my new boyfriend around while he was here because he wanted to have sex with me. Obviously that's all he wants. And after telling my boyfriend we were just friends, which was a lie, I did at a time want to cheat on my boyfriend.

Then I realized it was really wrong, I wrote to my ex via email telling him that he can't come if he's going to pressure me into cheating. And my boyfriend is the best thing that's ever happened to me. But when I sent him the email, telling him that I think it's best that he stays away from me... forever, he sent me a bunch of roses (it cost him $50.00), and a love letter.

I'm trying so hard to move on, but it's like he's playing a peek-a-boo game with me and I'm tired of playing it.

He says that he's coming to see me anyway. But what should I do? Should I just send him back to where he came from? Or go out to lunch with him like he wanted to? If I did go out to lunch with him, I'm bringing either my boyfrien (who hates him so much) or my best friend.

Tell me please! I need help on how to kick this person out of my life.

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 10:22am
Stop sending him any messages or replying to anything. Just doing that, he is getting what he wants, your attention. If he comes to town, don't acknowledge it. Stay away from him. No more calls letters or anything. If you put him completely on ignore, you wont know what he's up to. And he wont know what you are up to. Cut off all contact!



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Sun, 08-15-2004 - 1:50am
Thank you. I've beent really trying to. But last night he's called, and my grandmother handed me the phone. I had no choice but to talk to him. But I swear I will not talk to him at all. I'll put him on my **it list. He's going to be completely ignored. Thanks for the advice.
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Sun, 08-15-2004 - 8:44am
Well you need to tell Grandma that you have moved on and he just wont leave you alone. And if there is a next time, as soon as she hands you the phone, hang it up. Don't even say hello.



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