He won't let go!
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He won't let go!
| Mon, 03-20-2006 - 5:52pm |
I just broke up with my ex last month, due to many reasons. One of them was that we are on two completely different life paths and I just can't see a future for us anymore. I don't want to try and work through that issue, because I'm not head-over-heels for him like I was when we first started dating (7 months ago) and our relationship had slowly been detoriating for a couple of months. Unfortunately, he won't seem to get it through his head. We both frequent the same bars, restaurants and coffee shops (and I'm not willing to find different places to go for convenience purposes) and every time I see him, he tries to talk to me. He keeps telling me how he's changing his life and will be on the same path as me soon. He's a sweet guy and I don't want to hurt his feelings, but this is starting to go too far - he can't seem to accept that we're over and it's time to move on. Any thoughts on how I can deal with this?

You say you're not willing to change your routine "for convenience purposes," but if you're bothered by the "inconvenience" of having him around all the time, maybe it will motivate you to change up your routine a little. That's the easiest solution to the problem. Yes, he may find out where you're going and go there too, but it's going to be a lot harder for him to find you. I know it's an inconvenience to change everything for him but the best way to get him out of your life is to stop running into him all the time, stop taking his phone calls, just cut him off completely. That may sound cruel but it really is the kindest thing you can do for him right now. The sooner you're out of the picture, the sooner he'll free his mind up to find someone else.
That is -- ASSUMING that's what you want. Maybe there's a reason you aren't changing your routine...
Steph