He wrote me this email..
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| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 11:41pm |
LOOK BABE, ONCE AGAIN, I DIDN'T CHOOSE TO BE SINGLE OVER BEING WITH YOU, WHAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT THAT SH**? I WANTED TO SEE HOW I WOULD BE ABLE TO MANAGE ON MY F-ING OWN. LOOK, YOU ARE MY BABY, I LOVE YOU, AND ONLY YOU, I JUST NEED SOME DAMN TIME TO SEARCH MY INNER BEING YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO DO THAT IN YOUR LIFE, I HAVEN'T, WHY DEPRIVE ME OF THAT? AS FAR AS THE OTHER WOMEN THEN YES, I WENT OUT LAST NIGHT, YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW ANYTHING ELSE ABOUT THAT. YES, I LOVE YOU, YES I WANT YOU BACK- SOMETIME, BUT JUST GIVE ME SOME DAMN TIME, IF YOU CAN NOT DO SO THEN I DO NOT KNOW IF I CAN BE WITH YOU, SINCE YOU WOULDN'T RESPECT ME ENOUGH TO DO THAT FOR MAYBE 2 MONTHS OR SO, AND THATS BULLSH**. AFTER 4 YEARS OF BEING TOGETHER YOU WILL NOT ALLOW ME THE TIME TO BE BY MY GOD DAMN SELF.
I just wanted some insight on anything at all that should be said back to him in response to this email..or what anyone just thinks period about it... I will add that I never asked him anything about any dates he had when where or how.. I never asked.. I never asked him to get back with me or anything.. all I said is that it was ok.. he didn't have to go out with me since he felt the need to be rude and tell me I was not worthy kidding or not... it was hurtful, I never cursed at him or anything else..I didnt ask him about our relationship or pressure him into getting back together.. so any input on what would be good to say to him or if a response is a good ideal or just thoughts on this rude ass email......

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No one that has loving. long term relationship kind of feelings for you would EVER write that email to you.
There is a book out called "He's Just Not That Into You : The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys." It was featured on Oprah last week. It is sold out everywhere but I suggest you go to Amazon and read about it.
Let me say this again, he did you a favor when he went off to find himself. You deserve to be with a MAN (he appears to be a child) that knows what he wants.
Please do not beat yourself up emotionally, he has the problem, not you!
Good Luck
aquagirl
C
And when you sit there conversing, emailing, when you keep trying to "be friends' when in reality you want him back - what you're doing is sitting there going 'whip me, beat me, tell me I'm cheap because it's what I think of me...and that proves that you love me."
So the guy is saying....I'm not sure hwat I want in life, how I'm going to get what I want and need, I want some time to figure out what I'm capable of achieving and having on my own, for myself, without obligation to anybody else's feelings or needs, or having to hear their yap flap. But you stay right where you are, you good little dog, because you're nice, sweet, you're easy to get to fetch my paper and sit at my feet, and be ignored without barking or biting...and if I go out there and do everything I want to do, and be with all the owmen I want to be with...and I find out that nobody will serve me like you do, and that being with you would be the most beneficial and optioned situation for me as per my needs and my goals - then I'll come back to you at some point and allow you to serve me and meet my need and live by my standards.
And if I were you - I'd STOP thinking that anybody so self-absorbed, and so self-focused has the capacity to be anything but "selfish" all the way around. There is no reprocicity in a selfish dynamic.
I personally wouldn't respond, I wouldn't call, I'd say hi politely and pass on - for the rest of my life...I wouldn't have anything to do with him as an individual because I wouldn't respect this set of values and priorities...nor would I want to be impacted further by the actions that those values justify.
Erin
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My goodness, I'm just appalled!!!
Sheri
I agree with goldeneyedgirl, since he started this your response basically has to be no contact, no matter what! is not only good medicine for him, but a great place for you to start realizing you don't need him in your life at all ... not even for one simple word, no matter how apologetic.
He sucks, let him go ... you're free!
Michael
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