He wrote me this email..

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He wrote me this email..
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 11:41pm
My ex wrote me this email....

LOOK BABE, ONCE AGAIN, I DIDN'T CHOOSE TO BE SINGLE OVER BEING WITH YOU, WHAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT THAT SH**? I WANTED TO SEE HOW I WOULD BE ABLE TO MANAGE ON MY F-ING OWN. LOOK, YOU ARE MY BABY, I LOVE YOU, AND ONLY YOU, I JUST NEED SOME DAMN TIME TO SEARCH MY INNER BEING YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO DO THAT IN YOUR LIFE, I HAVEN'T, WHY DEPRIVE ME OF THAT? AS FAR AS THE OTHER WOMEN THEN YES, I WENT OUT LAST NIGHT, YOU DO NOT NEED TO KNOW ANYTHING ELSE ABOUT THAT. YES, I LOVE YOU, YES I WANT YOU BACK- SOMETIME, BUT JUST GIVE ME SOME DAMN TIME, IF YOU CAN NOT DO SO THEN I DO NOT KNOW IF I CAN BE WITH YOU, SINCE YOU WOULDN'T RESPECT ME ENOUGH TO DO THAT FOR MAYBE 2 MONTHS OR SO, AND THATS BULLSH**. AFTER 4 YEARS OF BEING TOGETHER YOU WILL NOT ALLOW ME THE TIME TO BE BY MY GOD DAMN SELF.

I just wanted some insight on anything at all that should be said back to him in response to this email..or what anyone just thinks period about it... I will add that I never asked him anything about any dates he had when where or how.. I never asked.. I never asked him to get back with me or anything.. all I said is that it was ok.. he didn't have to go out with me since he felt the need to be rude and tell me I was not worthy kidding or not... it was hurtful, I never cursed at him or anything else..I didnt ask him about our relationship or pressure him into getting back together.. so any input on what would be good to say to him or if a response is a good ideal or just thoughts on this rude ass email......

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 8:11pm
Thanks to everyone that replied to my message. I have decided against writing him back or calling him. It's hard though. I went through the no contact thing with him before when we broke up initial a couple of weeks ago but I just couldn't stand it anymore and I contacted him..(big mistake). So that really mean email,made me both mad and sad, and I have not spoken to him since Tuesday. He didn't call yesterday, and last night I had this dream, that he called, and I talk to him and he made me feel horrible in the dream, so when I woke up the phone rang it was him, and thinking of the dream. I didn't answer. He did leave a message however, and he sounded kind of pissed off, he was asking me why I was ignoring him. I just wanted to say that it felt kind of good to ignore him, I didnt feel so powerless in this dreadful situation. I miss him though for some reason, but I know that I can't contact him... So anyway... I just wanted to say thanks...

Lynn

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 10:19pm
Welcome to the board, Lynn!! I know I'm a little late in responding to this but I just wanted to say that I'm glad you decided against contacting him....I really think it's for the better. He should have never sent an e-mail that rude and doesn't deserve you or any courtesy. I'm glad you're feeling better about not talking to him and I think it will help in the long run if you can stick to it and we're here to help whenever you need us!! Good luck and keep us posted!!!
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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 12:26am
Well, He called me today twice, Once he just asked me to call,and the other he left a message on my voicemail and kind of made an attempt at an apology . He said sorry, and he didnt mean to hurt me,but also stated that I misunderstood what he ment. Well I felt like it was pretty clear that he wanted me to leave him alone , and let him be with other women, well that's what I have been doing. He also states he just doesn't understand why I won't talk to him. I feel really sad today because I miss him a lot, and my birthday is coming up on the 16, and we had all these plans to do all these fun things together, and it just makes me sad thinking that I will now be alone on my birthday. I'm just really having hard time tonight with that.. My heart feels like it ripping from the inside out. It just hurts, and I guess I just need encouragement that things will be ok, and that I can get through my birthday, alone....thanks in advance...


Lynn

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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 1:05am
Lynn, yes, you can get through your birthday alone because you know what? You're not alone. You have friends, right? And you have us. We're here for you. I'm gonna go write you an email right now!

You know he's just trying to sound like he's sorry because you're not talking to him. He has made himself clear. He said he wants space and time to do whatever he wants. Let him have that time. But let him know that he can't have his cake and eat it too. If he wants space and if he wants to go out with other women you don't want to be exposed to that. NC is the only way you can get through this without being hurt.

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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 7:45pm
Thanks Iamdelightful, yes, I do have a couple of friends that I hold dear.. However they really just don't seem to relate,and onr, has a lot of her own problems to deal with health and everythings. My mom has offered to take me out to dinner so I guess, that's what I will be doing on that day, so I guess that's cool, and I'll probably post here more than likely, so that's what I'll do and somehow that's just going to have to be ok, but thanks for the words of encouragement..



Lynn

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