is this the healing process?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-24-2004
is this the healing process?
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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 1:30pm
hi,

it's been around two months now since i broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. things happened too fast, and since then i have been in shock. i couldn't understand how fate can twist this quickly. (u can read my previous post Sep-24)

i've been through a bad breakup before, and i thought that things would be easier the second time around. but it's not. in fact, i think it becomes harder to deal with since you would have thought that you have learned from your mistakes and this time it's going to be forver.

the only good thing about all this is that i've learned that i am capable of loving with all my heart, and yet, i'm also capable of standing up and saying "no" when i have to.

time is just passing by, i'm waiting for all this pain to go away.

i still miss him like hell, but the thing that hurts most is that i feel there is nothing to dream about anymore..

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 12:44am
Yep that sounds like the vicious roller-coaster of emotions more commonly known as the healing process! I know that break-ups are tough and hard to deal with but you'll get through it all in time....and one day you will dream of things again!! Nothing has to be permanent and the feelings you're having now will eventually pass and we're here to help as best we can so feel free to post whenever you get the urge. Good luck!!!!
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Registered: 10-05-2003
Mon, 10-11-2004 - 5:06pm
Just curious - have you had any contact with him? I broke up w/ my ex 5 weeks ago and haven't talked or corresponded (told him to leave me alone) in almost 4 weeks. It is SO hard. Is it getting easier? Is it easier to not have contact for you (or would it have been)? I heard last week that my is very sad and saying wonderful things about me and that he wishes he could contact me. But I don't think it would be healthy for me to now go there. I don't know alot of your story, but I realized it was probably better and easier if I just don't hear anything and try not to dwell on it and try to move on.

Good luck getting through this.

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 6:45pm
I've just broke up with my ex of 4 years. I know what your going through. Just stay strong and like I tell myself "This too shall pass". It been only 2 weeks since I've talked to my ex and it's so hard. How do you just walk away from someone you love and leave the 4 years in the past. I wish when I broke up with him I would have stopped contact right away. Its been 2 1/2 months since we broke up and talking to him made things so much harder. I finally gave in and wanted him back, but then he told me he didnt want me. But he's talking to other women, its making me so depressed ever day. Its easier to walk away with knowing your done than feeling rejected and alone.