heartbreaker...why???
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heartbreaker...why???
| Sun, 07-15-2007 - 11:42pm |
My boyfriend recently broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. He gave me no reason why, though we had a little argument the weekend before hand. He bluntly said its over and tore my heart into shreds. I didnt take it seriusly at first, but when he didnt call me or msg for a few days i knew he was serious. I called and msg'd him 24/7, it was so sudden especially when he kept saying he wanted to marry me and that no other woman would ever compare to me. Even our friends kept saying that we were the best couple and that they had never seen anyone ever in love as much as we were. We've been together for nearly three years, i want him back so desperately, but he is determined not to have any contact with me. I feel like my life has ended, i feel so lonely and sad, i have no explanation as to why. I wrote him a msg to say i loved him and he finally replied that he done me the favour and that he loves and misses me so much that it husts, but he doesn feel that it will work. He said "i hope your alrite, your perfect in everyway, your rite, you dont deserve any of this". i KNOW HE WOULDN CHEAT ON ME so im not going to even think about that. It hurts so much, i get the urge to call him, i do sometimes, but he never picks up and i feel so hurt, confused and humiliated everyday. Why has this happened to me? Why do i want to still be with him when he has done this? Im usually a strong girl, but i dont know what has happened to me. Im fallling apart and feeling so sad, a feeling ive never felt before. Like he's dying
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| Mon, 07-16-2007 - 12:24am |
I'm sorry your going thru this. It is not easy, and that is why your feeling this way. It's going to hard, and some days, it will be unbearable. If you think in short terms, like when will this be over, will make the situation harder. You can't get away from what your feeling, and expect to be over this in a short period of time. It's just not going to happen, and I'm sorry for that. But we all have been there, and we know, it takes time for you to get over this and heal. One thing, you have to do now, is immediately stop calling him, to get answers and for him to explain. It will only make things worse, because he may not know why he broke up with you, and he can't give you any answers, and that's the most frustrating thing. Calling him is not good and trying to convince him to talk to you, will push him away much further, and you will never get anywhere with that tactic. He has to want to talk to you, and you really have to wait to that day come. But be prepared, it may never come. You can't sit around and wait for him to call you to explain. It may never happen, but, I believe one day, you might get answers. In the meantime, you have to start moving on. It will be hard, but you have to lay low, and try to heal from this, one day at a time, and I mean, just that, one day at time. You will have some bad days and nights, so be prepared. We all feel your pain, but if you believe in God and in yourself, you will survive this, and learn to love again. Do not hide what your feeling. Let the tears and angry flow. You need to get it out. Have you talked to any friends? That is helpful, but you have to learn to do this by yourself, so you will have the tools, if this happens again. Your pain, is paving the way for a better woman. You will be so much stronger, just wait and see. You just have to get past the stages of a break-up, and I promise, you will be so different, and happy. I truly believe your "ex", didn't want to do this, but for some reason, he wanted out, and didn't know how to tell you. It's a coward kinda way, but you have to accept that, and acceptance is the hardiest stage to get thru. But you will, that's a promise. Continue to post, people on these boards, care, and they have been there with you. There very helpful. I wish the best for you.
| Tue, 07-17-2007 - 4:05am |
thankyou. ur reply made me burst into tears. but its true, i should move on, just forget about him. He msg'd my best friend to talk, but told her not to tell me. they're going to speak tomorrow nite, shes going to tell me what he says. Why can he talk to her and not to me, i just want to hate him. I want to hear the words out of his mouth and not from my best friend. I reali appreciate what you've had to say to me, its strong words of encouragment and im forever thankful
