HeartBroken

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Registered: 04-01-2004
HeartBroken
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 12:00pm
I posted in other board before but i need more opinion.I told my bestfriend that im in love with her but she doesn't feel the same way about me.I dont know what to do now.I really want to stop seeing her at all but she still want us to be friend.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: ungc
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 11:12pm
Welcome to the board!! I'm so sorry to hear about your best friend.....that must hurt tremendously. As for remaining friends.....you need to ask yourself if it's possible to be friends with her still....either now or in the future. I think it might be a good idea for you to distance yourself from her (if not cut all contact) at least until you're over her....because being around her may only make things worse. No matter what you decide...we're here to help you and I wish you the best. Good luck (((Hugs))) and post as often as you like.
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Registered: 04-01-2004
In reply to: ungc
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 1:29pm
Thanks for the help and support.I'm very grateful
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Registered: 09-14-2004
In reply to: ungc
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 1:38pm
Why is it that girls usually want to try and remain friends? And guys don't want anything to do with us anymore? Maybe the men have the right idea...I don't know about the rest of you, but I always want to be friends with my ex boyfriends--even though I know it's unhealthy. I have this irrational fear of them hating me for some reason. Obviously nobody likes to be hated, but why do I hold onto people who just hurt me?

In response to your situation...if you think you want to be friends in the future, just tell her that you need time/space to get over the hurt and that it doesn't mean that you DON'T care (girls are quick to assume that when it comes to the no-contact rule). But if you really don't want to be friends ever again, then make sure she knows. Don't give her false hope. And either way--don't let her take advantage of you!! She knows you care about her in that way--you're the vulnerable one right now.

Good luck and take care.