HEARTBROKEN IN MY FIFTIES - PART 2

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Registered: 06-17-2006
HEARTBROKEN IN MY FIFTIES - PART 2
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 2:41pm

My recent disappointment and heartbreak after the end of a 7 year relationship pales in comparison to what my son is experiencing. He called me yesterday from Iraq. He is stationed in Baghdad. Three weeks ago his wife told him over the phone that she wanted a divorce. She is also in the military, and was deployed to Iraq the previous year, so I know she must understand how selfish it is that she tell him 5 months before he can come home.

I am just sick. His HumVee was hit by an I.E.D. 2 weeks ago. Luckily nobody was hurt, but he has to stay focused to get himself and his men out of there alive. I know for myself that even the simplest tasks that take concentration are difficult when my mind is consumed by the raw emotions of hurt, disappointment and heartbreak. I don't know how he is going to carry on. The two of them were like peas in a pod...I thought of all the marriages that I know of, this one will work. She didn't give a reason, just said she wants to be on her own. A more likely scenario is that she found somebody else while he was gone...my brother, who was also in the military, said he had to counsel lots of men whose wives did the exact same thing, and in 99% of the cases it is because they found somebody else. Instant gratification - no ability to be in it for the long haul, through thick and thin, the good times and the bad. What has become of us?

Luckily there are no children involved. I know how painful divorce can be to a child.

Just had to type this out, so I can try and deal with it. Please pray for my son.