Hi everyone, I am writting for some serious advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for the past five years. Our relationship has been so wonderful sure we have had our fights but we truly get along. He is my best friend and my lover. In the past year we had been kicking around the idea of getting married. He was the one who was really pushing it, I am 23, and really knew that financially we should get on our feet more. His romatic ideas really caught me though and than I was all for getting married to him. My grandmother heard we wanted to get married and offered us her diamond from her engagment ring. My boyfriend and I were thrilled and went to the jewelery store, and put money down on a setting. Following all of this we informed family and friends that we would be married and even set a date for Nov. 2007. About three weeks ago he started asking me all thee crazy questions. He wanted to know if I would move cross country, would i live abroad while he went to graduate school. I really never answered him but I could tell he was testing his limits and my limits as to where I would go. Than the next week he just started saying that he had "gut feelings" that now wasn't the time to get engaged but that he still wanted to. I was soo shocked and I couldn't even understand. I told him that I wasn't going to wait around forever for him to figure out why he didn't think now was the time. I racked my brain thinking of every possibly reason, I know he isn't cheating, I don't think its really me, I haven't changed that I know of. Today after 2 weeks of him not knowing, him telling me he is so confused, after 2 weeks of barely being able to sleep, I told him I needed a break. He is soo upset with me. He told me he doesn't want us to be apart but that he still can't get engaged to me "right now" and doesn't know when he can. What am I supposed to do? Why would he wait to tell me all this after, purchasing a setting, telling our family and friends, and making wedding plans? Please help me with some advice....
In search of adivce...
Melissa