help!

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Registered: 07-30-2007
help!
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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 6:37pm
I was seeing someone for about 5 months and i really liked him! and then he ended things, but i work with him so i still have to see him every day! so its sooo hard to get over him! and then one weekend i got really drunk n ended up stayin at his, but felt so used afterwards n promised myself id never let it happen again! but then i went to a party at his on saturday n he invited me to stay n all my feelings just came rushing back and i ended up lettin it happen again! im so embarassed n annoyed with myself that i wasnt stronger! how can i make sure it doesnt happen again n just get over him? really need help!! thank you!
and if anyone needs advice, u can come to me!
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Registered: 07-30-2007
In reply to: xxashleighmacxx
Mon, 07-30-2007 - 7:44pm
Well, I would say that you have to set the record straight once and for all. You need to know EXACTLY where you stand in the relationship. If he tells you that he just wants to fool around, rather than have a relationship; the decision is up to you whether you agree with it or not. But I would say rather than having him make the decision, you have to sit down and really ask yourself: Am I ok with just fooling around with this guy, rather than being in a committed relationship? I feel that you should call the shots and stand by your decision.
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Registered: 04-02-2007
In reply to: xxashleighmacxx
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 9:49am
Get some self respect?.... He broke up with you. You got drunk and had sex, he did not use you. You went to his party he asked you to stay and you did it again. There is a pattern going there. If you don't want to feel used.... STOP drinking with him, STOP going to his house, STOP communicating with him unless it is about work. You only control you and what you do, if you don't want to be his booty call, don't be. You keep letting this happen that is no ones fault but your own. Good luck
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: xxashleighmacxx
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:47am

Welcome to the board xxashleighmacxx,


Don't be too hard on yourself.