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| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 9:10pm |
It has been a month since my break up, but I try to get better, I’m getting better, I am learning how to smile and laugh again. I even went out and met 2 guys and gave my phone number out. I am starting to date again, but…
It makes me cry after seeing the other guys, it makes me miss him so much. I am trying to move on but he is still in my heart. I look at our old pictures and I swear I drop down. When I drink my friends take my phone away because I might call him, but what they don’t know is that I call him private every now and then just to hear his voice. I miss him and don’t want anyone else, I look at the other guys that are out there and they don’t compare to him, not by looks or personality. I want him back, but we can never go back.
I cry all the time, I want someone to make it better, but it seems as if the other guys make me remember him and how he was. I hate him for leaving me the way he did, he just erased me from his life. I don’t know what to do anymore, all I want is him, I want him back!!!! I want to stop missing him, I thought by dating that it would make it better, but it seems to make it worse.
I NEED HELP- don’t know what to do anymore.
It makes me cry after seeing the other guys, it makes me miss him so much. I am trying to move on but he is still in my heart. I look at our old pictures and I swear I drop down. When I drink my friends take my phone away because I might call him, but what they don’t know is that I call him private every now and then just to hear his voice. I miss him and don’t want anyone else, I look at the other guys that are out there and they don’t compare to him, not by looks or personality. I want him back, but we can never go back.
I cry all the time, I want someone to make it better, but it seems as if the other guys make me remember him and how he was. I hate him for leaving me the way he did, he just erased me from his life. I don’t know what to do anymore, all I want is him, I want him back!!!! I want to stop missing him, I thought by dating that it would make it better, but it seems to make it worse.
I NEED HELP- don’t know what to do anymore.

Honey, dating won't make it better. You need time to take care of yourself. Accept that it's over and that the man you thought you knew left you hanging. I don't know the entire story but it seems that he left you high and dry. How can you miss this man after what he did? His behavior says a lot of his character.
This is your time. Enjoy your own company. You're a lovable and valuable person who deserves to be treated like a queen...by yourself. Pamper yourself and do stuff you enjoy doing.
Where is the man who treats you like a queen, who showers you with roses and warm details. Where is he now that you need support? He's gone and he should be gone for good. He left you and that hurt. The man doesn't deserve more of your valuable time.
Hon, moving on means that you accept that this man is gone for good, not looking at pictures and crying and not calling him in private. ALL these things that you do prevent you from moving on.
Dating right away, even casually,
In my opinion one month is way too early to get back into the dating scene because of what you are going through of not having your ex out of your heart. I know the feeling of wanting to date because you think it is going to help you forget your ex but it does just the opposite. Please take some time to yourself right now and leave the dating scene alone until your are fully emotionally ready for it. My ex dumped me 5 months ago - he basically got scared and ran after an intense 8 month relationship of him telling me that I am the one, I love you, blah,blah,blah. I have taken the last 5 months and did nothing but concentrate on ME and left guys alone. I can now say, I am fully ready to date again and I am in contact with a very special man who I can't wait to see in person. I would have never been able to do this until now. Hang out with your friends and family as much as possible, throw away everything and anything that reminds you of him. Stay far far away from his house and whatever you do, DON'T call him. I guarantee, this does work.
Good Luck!