help.

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Registered: 10-06-2004
help.
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Sun, 10-17-2004 - 2:42pm
due to work and classes, we both dont have enough time to see each other. it hurts both of us to not see each other as much as we want. we both love each other very much and i am not willing to let go something so great. we decided to separate/break up for a while till the time is right. he said if we both love each other, we'll end up together. i love this guy so much, i've decided to wait for him. i find this situation is like a test, a test to see if we both really truly love each other. if we can get through this, when we get back together, it will only make us cherish each other more. its so hard for me, i cant stop crying and my head is giving me images when we were together, that doesnt help a bit. please give me some of your suggestions and thoughts. thank you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: serendipityx3
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 5:36pm
I'm sorry for the pain you're going through. The hurt we feel from missing someone is just the worst thing in the world sometimes. It really sucks. Now, from what you've said it sounds like this separation is mutual, is that right? Or was it his idea? Cause I got to tell you that when two people really love each other and want to be together I think they find the time to do it. Modern life is busy. We're all weighed down with commitments all the time: work, school, friends, family, community involvement, etc. Having a friend, lover, partner and confidente to share all this with should make things easier, not harder. So what I'm saying is I don't really understand why you can't see each other. It sounds like one or both of you is making excuses ...
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Registered: 10-10-2004
In reply to: serendipityx3
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 8:15am
I am sorry but this makes no sense to me.

2 people that love each other are not together because of busy schedules? Never heard o such a crazy thing.

That islife! We all have busy schedules! What is really going on here I don;t think you being truthful about this to yourself or this board.

Test? Love and a relationship do not need a test of time! Rubbish!

I think it is time you ask yourself some serious questions before you go on hurting yourself more.......

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Registered: 10-06-2004
In reply to: serendipityx3
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 10:45am
i dont even know what i should do or how i should feel. he said it hurts him that he couldnt spend enough time with me, its like breaking promises to him. i get mad sometimes cause i probably only see him once a month. i guess part of it is my fault, he couldnt spend enough time with me and it made me start to doubt him a a bit, like is he cheating on me out there or whatever. he dont want to have the burden of not spending time with me everyday when he is out there whether its work or classes. hes probably going to use this time to get his life back together and focus more into what he thinks is more important. im so confused, it hurts so much cause i really want to be with this guy. im also scared that someone is going to take him away but he is not mine anymore. it just feels so different without him, i feel like a part of me died. love can make you feel crazy.