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| Wed, 09-08-2004 - 1:32pm |
I just need to get my feelings out! I am in so much pain its unbearable...it is hard to believe anybody ever survives this. How do you move on when you have found the love of your life and then they are gone? I have been through a divorce and even that was not this hard. Am I just overreacting or is this intense agonizing gut wrentching pain normal? When does it subside? I saw my ex last night, I know he loves me as well, but he made it clear that there is no hope for us...I respect his honesty. But I don't understand why if we love each other so much we can't make it work, he doesn't understand or have the experience to know what we have I suppose (he is 7 years younger than me). Seeing him didn't make it worse for me, in fact it felt good to see him and hold him. We are such good friends and I have lost that as well. He still wants to see me on occasion, I don't know how I feel about this... how can I move on if I see him, I will continue to be in love with him. Why does he want to see me?
Thanks for listening.

It may well be possible for you to reconnect as friends later, after you're completely over him, but you're right that you won't be able to get over him if you keep in touch.
He probably wants to keep in touch because he geniunely cares about you, but he's moved on emotionally (he went through the grieving process while deciding to break up with you, most likely), so he doesn't understand that you are not in the same place. Alternatively, he wants to be "friends" so he can not feel guilty about breaking up with you (because if you're willing to be friends, he must not be a bad guy!). Or he may want to keep his options open by staying in touch with you...but that is not something that helps YOU.
Sheri
Take care!