HELP FEELING REALLY VULNERABLE

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Registered: 07-17-2007
HELP FEELING REALLY VULNERABLE
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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 4:43pm

Most of you have read my previous posts about my recent breakup. Im really having a hard time again. I find myself thinking of him all the time, I miss him and Im not sure what to do.

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 4:49pm
As long as you are still seeing him in any capacity I think you're going to have a hard time moving on. Right now you have your cake but it's sitting right in front of you and you can't have any. That has to be torture. Not sure what your situation is, but is there anyway to move forward with NC?

 

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 4:53pm
Love your analogy, so true and sometimes its torture cause i just want to hug him, touch him, kiss him but I won't.
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Registered: 08-02-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 4:54pm
Well Blonde, it doesn't get that easy that fast...you will have your days like this and you will have your really up days too...I wouldn't tell my ex that i miss him now (i really do) cause i can't take the rejection and i know it would hurt deeper, but if you feel that you can handle it or that you can deal with him just wanting to appeasing his sexual need with you then do what you feel you must.

Hugs,

 

Dbest

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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 5:08pm

I'm not surprised--this is what I was fearing would happen since you have to see him once a week and you are trying to be buds with him so soon.


What good is telling him going to do?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 5:09pm
The talking and flirting is going to make it more painful and harder to let go.
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Registered: 02-23-2005
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 5:40pm
Is there any reaons you NEED to be on this bowling league? Reminds me of the movie, the breakup. Even though it may feel as if HE won that battle, it might be, scratch that, WILL be easier if you don't have to see him once a week.


Edited 11/1/2007 5:41 pm ET by mdrsfr

 

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 1:36am

But then you don't set any boundaries Tuesday night. He basically gets you one night a week without any strings attached.

In your position, I'd quit the bowling league. I personally gave up the apartment I'd lived in for 3 years to get away from the memories. Rejoin the league when you're over him.

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your