No one is worth taking your life. Don't even SAY IT, because it's just not a thing to play with. I know it can feel like this pain is unbearable. And that you will always feel this way. But you won't. If you were my little sister, what I would tell her, is that this man isn't treating her right. And it sounds like he hasn't in a LONG time. And you know cuteness, i think this panicky feeling will subside when you decide to take back your power. Just take it back. Why are you letting him keep you in limbo land? Why does he get to decide if/when you will be together? Don't you see how wrong and hurtful that is?
I don't know cuteness. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you that all of this will be OK. Just try to find your inner strength, and this will help guide you. You deserve better treatment then this. I promise.
I don't even know what to say about this. Honestly.
But I will say this. My last break up, I hit ROCK BOTTOM. I loved this idiot as I loved nobody I'd ever dated before. Enough that halfway through our break up week, I sat down one day, took out a bottle of codeine and measured out the LD50 (or basically fatal dose) and I came to my senses and marched myself to the hospital with my mom.
Looking back, that has got to be the single stupidest thing I'd every did. If you'd told me 6 months ago that I'd be crying and trying to commit suicide to get away from the pain, I'd have laughed in your face.
And the funny thing is well two funny things, is that, my best friend let him know via IM what I'd almost done, and did he care? To this day, I don't know. Because I came back home to find a long break up letter in my email and nary a text or phone call to see if I was ok. My best friend had to call him numerous times the next day (and boy was she pissed) to see if her IM had gotten lost in the sending.
Anyways, it was never more clear that day how different, fundamentally, the two of us were. If it were the other way around, I'd have been calling him to see how he was, no matter how adamant I was to breaking up with him. That's also the day I decided we were finished for good.
I think a similar situation applies here. I pray that you will never go to the lengths I went to for your ex. Take a good long look at how you'd handle things if the situation was reversed. If your boyfriend called you frantically, would you ignore him? Is that how you deal with people? Would you keep him hanging while you entertained? Or are you made of different stuff? He's playing games with your mind. If you have an ounce of respect for yourself, walk away.
If you want justice - this cad that unceremoniously threw me off, called me two weeks later, trying to meet up when I went to interview for my phD. I didn't give him the time of day. Why? Because I'd seen what he was made of.
And in response to another post which I'll append here, I pretty much thought my ex was perfect in every way. P-E-R-F-E-C-T. Moreso because I felt like I'd waded through a lot of incompatible people for this guy. There was NOTHING this guy could do wrong. But you know..a month of NC later, when I was clearheaded, I realize he wasn't that perfect afterall. He wasn't bad, he was very sweet most of the time, but in the end, his core values disappointed me. And I can tell you, your ex's core values are sort of disappointing too.
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
Hi cuteness, huge ((HUGS)) and I'm so sorry you're hurting, but I'm so glad you have this wonderful community to help you deal with your relationship problems.
thank u so much & you're right my mum told me 2 he's young & want to just experience sex & other girls. we've been through so much together. he says he has a strong mindset & wants to be with me. i know he's young & wants to explore life but were still in a relationship.i cannot stand it if we're not together am i too in love?? i havent spoken to him as yet.
Cuteness,
Please call the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-Suicide (1-800-784-2433) or talk to your mother at least.
Man is the only animal that has to be encouraged to live.
Cuteness,
No one is worth taking your life. Don't even SAY IT, because it's just not a thing to play with.
I know it can feel like this pain is unbearable. And that you will always feel this way. But you won't.
If you were my little sister, what I would tell her, is that this man isn't treating her right. And it sounds like he hasn't in a LONG time.
And you know cuteness, i think this panicky feeling will subside when you decide to take back your power.
Just take it back.
Why are you letting him keep you in limbo land?
Why does he get to decide if/when you will be together? Don't you see how wrong and hurtful that is?
I don't know cuteness. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you that all of this will be OK. Just try to find your inner strength, and this will help guide you. You deserve better treatment then this. I promise.
I don't even know what to say about this. Honestly.
But I will say this. My last break up, I hit ROCK BOTTOM. I loved this idiot as I loved nobody I'd ever dated before. Enough that halfway through our break up week, I sat down one day, took out a bottle of codeine and measured out the LD50 (or basically fatal dose) and I came to my senses and marched myself to the hospital with my mom.
Looking back, that has got to be the single stupidest thing I'd every did. If you'd told me 6 months ago that I'd be crying and trying to commit suicide to get away from the pain, I'd have laughed in your face.
And the funny thing is well two funny things, is that, my best friend let him know via IM what I'd almost done, and did he care? To this day, I don't know. Because I came back home to find a long break up letter in my email and nary a text or phone call to see if I was ok. My best friend had to call him numerous times the next day (and boy was she pissed) to see if her IM had gotten lost in the sending.
Anyways, it was never more clear that day how different, fundamentally, the two of us were. If it were the other way around, I'd have been calling him to see how he was, no matter how adamant I was to breaking up with him. That's also the day I decided we were finished for good.
I think a similar situation applies here. I pray that you will never go to the lengths I went to for your ex. Take a good long look at how you'd handle things if the situation was reversed. If your boyfriend called you frantically, would you ignore him? Is that how you deal with people? Would you keep him hanging while you entertained? Or are you made of different stuff? He's playing games with your mind. If you have an ounce of respect for yourself, walk away.
If you want justice - this cad that unceremoniously threw me off, called me two weeks later, trying to meet up when I went to interview for my phD. I didn't give him the time of day. Why? Because I'd seen what he was made of.
And in response to another post which I'll append here, I pretty much thought my ex was perfect in every way. P-E-R-F-E-C-T. Moreso because I felt like I'd waded through a lot of incompatible people for this guy. There was NOTHING this guy could do wrong. But you know..a month of NC later, when I was clearheaded, I realize he wasn't that perfect afterall. He wasn't bad, he was very sweet most of the time, but in the end, his core values disappointed me. And I can tell you, your ex's core values are sort of disappointing too.
Hi cuteness, huge ((HUGS)) and I'm so sorry you're hurting, but I'm so glad you have this wonderful community to help you deal with your relationship problems.
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Hugs to you.