Help me decide what to do!!!
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Help me decide what to do!!!
| Wed, 11-24-2004 - 12:05am |
After a very tumultuous year and three months my boyfriend and I called it quits... Actually, he broke up with me stating that he needed "space" and "time apart". Of course by that he meant "time to party with my friends without an angry girlfriend to come home to". We still fought during our time apart because I have no trust in him!! We finally decided to forget the whole idea of a relationship and just be friends - which worked out just fine for a week. Now he calls and wants me back. Well, we've been through this and the fighting and the drama soooooo much that I'm pretty much done with it. He was so mean to me sometimes that now I feel like I don't even know myself anymore. I want ME back. He's just so agressive that I don't know how to handle it. He's a me me me kinda guy so when I explain things to him from my point of view he just gets mad. What do I do? Should I go back until he breaks up with me again so he can't blame it on me and sabotage my single life and every relationship thereafter? Or should I just be brave and tell him to go away? I would like to maintain our friendship, but I just don't think it's going to happen. HELP.

Be brave and strong, and tell him to go away!
"Or should I just be brave and tell him to go away?"
Bingo!
"I would like to maintain our friendship"
Now this is what I don't understand. Why would you want to still be friends with him? Are those qualities you LIKE in your friends? Do you want your friends to be self absorbed? Do you look for friends who selfish and have to have things their own way? Do you like friends who you can't trust?
That's where I'm confused. All the qualities (or lack of) that made him a lousey BF also make him a lousey friend. Why do you want to chose to keep that negativity in your life?