Help Me Explain Why We Shouldn't Talk
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Help Me Explain Why We Shouldn't Talk
| Mon, 03-24-2008 - 6:04pm |
A little background- we dated for 2 yrs and 2 months, I stayed there a good 6 nights a week, we are both 26 and young professionals.

May I suggest that you stop communicating with him with long drawn out explanations about how you cannot communicate with him?
******************************************* “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over againI don't think he wants to understand--I think he just wants to be selfish.
Hi,
I agree with the other responders. He is being selfish, i.e., you are helping him by talking to him. Its not mutual. It is hurting you. Furthermore, you are not in any way obligated t explain your reasons to him.
trillian
I agree. My bf does not understand why after this we can not be friends. He thinks it is immature. My guess is immature people can't see how mature (and hard!) that is to do! Tell him that it is healthy to take time to heal and that is what you are going to do. Tell him the minimum time you need to heal (two months for ex.) and tell him that you will not be able to talk to him during that time. If he cares about you at all as a friend, he will understand.
Good luck!
Liz
Thanks for all of the advice ladies, I agree that he's being selfish- I spoke to him again last night he still didn't understand why we can't continue contact, he even wants to take me to dinner.
congratulations ju1ez!
I found that reading articles, websites, and books on breaking up and relationship issues helps me to see things in a clearer light. (I LOVE "It's called a breakup because it's broken"- book)! I also looked up some of his issues too, so I could further drill into my head that it is HIM and I did not do anything wrong!
I am also trying to keep busy! Yesterday I had nothing to do (I am on vacation from grad school), so I went to the laundromat and the book store! Today, I had to meet classmates to work on a project. Tomorrow my mom is coming to visit and on Thursday I am going back to my hometown for the weekend to spend time with family and friends.
Good luck! We are here to support each other!