Help Me Get Him Out of My Mind Quicker!

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Registered: 04-16-2006
Help Me Get Him Out of My Mind Quicker!
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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 6:34pm

We have all experienced it or we wouldn't be chatting in this particular room! I was in a relationship for 6 years, he ended it in August. I am still crying at night, thinking about him all day and trying very hard to have no contact. We live in the same town and he and I haven't crossed paths yet. I have 3 children and I feel he took advantage of all of our hearts. I have ill parents and am taking care of them, I am a single parent and I work full-time. The great thing we had about our relationship, or so I thought was that weekends were free for us to spend together and we always had date night during the week. His kids were older, mine younger. He was always supportive of my career, my parenting and my strength to conquer adversity. I built a new house 3 years ago, he built one this year. I thought we would commit after he built and moved into his home this year. He lived in it for 5 months, broke up with me the 5th month and now has the home for sale. I called him and he said he was moving to be closer to his kids! They live 30 miles from him in any direction??? Anyhow, he is a MAN and made it clear it was easiest if we didn't have contact as I would read too much into that. I don't understand how men move on so quickly after years together. I am not naive, but they really were 6 great years. We gave each other space as needed, support always and independence to spend time with families as priority. I am just needing time to move on and it takes time. Any ideas, my children are gone this weekend and I am already tired of going to the bars with my friends. That is not something I enjoy.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 11-17-2006 - 3:18pm

Sheri has posted 'Thought Stopping' - here's the link:

http://www.geocities.com/breakingupishard/advise.htm


Carrie