Help With Relationship/Breakup

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Registered: 02-18-2008
Help With Relationship/Breakup
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 9:18pm

Hi everybody,


My name is Ross and I have been dating a girl for about almost coming up on 4 years now but the relationship has fallen on hard times I have lied to her about some things about me I have corresponded with people on the net only friends mind you but she got very upset and I know the last thing is really bad I have had a problem with looking at pornography but I am trying to kick the habit I am in therapy and I am getting help with everything and I dont have alot of friends actually none at all all through high school I had no friends and very shy until I met rachel that is her name. I love her very much my first real girlfriend and I care about her and want to be with her but for some reason I keep on messing up and dont know why she just called me and told me it was over she could not take it anymore but I know I want to be with her and it is hard to let go she has even broken up with me and then about 3 months later she calls me and we are back on it is so hard to tell we went through this phase were we would just meet go out to dinner and have sex with each other I lost my virginity to this girl and I feel a connection with her she has worked though alot of things with me but I know I can change I have promised her that but I keep on failing some times I love her very much but I want so much for her to be with me. How do you guys get over these things? I need help with this it drives me crazy when I see other people holding hands and kissing and know that I may not even do that again. i know I am just ranting but I really want everybodys advise I would really appreciate it.


Thanks everybody


Ross