HELP- What should I do?!
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| Mon, 07-03-2006 - 1:20pm |
A week ago my “ex” broke up with me. After four days, I couldn’t take it anymore so I called him. I do not want him out of my life. I love him. We agreed to be in a “break” than an actual “break-up.” It sounded great since that gave me hope to see him and talk to him. We said not to see anyone else, and just see how we can work again so there won’t be no more break-ups.
I saw him yesterday for the first time after the break-up. I was hoping that he will just be my boyfriend again but then he insisted that we should be on the break until he is sure about getting back together. He keep saying “there could be a possibility to get back together”-- It hurt hearing that since there was the possibility of never get back together.
I kissed him. We had sex. But he still wants to stay in a break, not be together yet. Even though I wanted to have sex with him, when I woke up this morning I felt used. We talked this morning, hoping that I will see him today (when were dating I would see him everyday and spend holidays together) But no, he is leaving tonight to his parents in Indiana for the 4th of July. I might see him Thursday. I do not know until I decide if I want to stay in this break.
When I see him, I want to kiss him. It is hard not to. I do not know if I should stay on this break. I really want to be with him. I am just afraid that he might treat me like a puppet. Use me.
He says he loves me. That he wouldn’t be in this if he didn’t love me. He wants to try to get back together, but he needs to see first if we should.
I think we should just be boyfriend and girlfriend and work things out together, not on a break.
What do you think I should do? Stay until he decides when its time to get back together (or maybe stop seeing each other at all)? OR should I just leave now?

OMG girl, did we have carbon copy weekends? And I think our boyfriends are identical twins seperated at birth,
Reading yours, sounding exactly like mine, I love him more than anything in the world, I was soooooooo happy to be back in his arms, laughing, giggling, I just stared at him while he slept,
Unfortunatly, I think our boys just want to use us for sex...I mean, I know mine does, I am just having a hard time accepting it, and after reading your post, it makes it clearer for me, I just finished writing the same thing two minutes ago...OH girl, we need to move on I think, they cant have thier cake and eat it too, we need to take the break seriously and think 'WE ARE NOT GETTING BACK TOGETHER' instead of crying and hoping and praying, I am so upset and pissed at the same time!!!
Louise
I think that continuing on the path you are on is just going to set you up for continued heartache and pain. But be very clear--he is not "using" you, if you are are allowing this behavior. It's up to YOU to be responsible for your own choices and setting your own boundaries.
The best thing you could do for yourself is ask him to call you if and when he decides he is 100% sure he wants to try again. Then move on in the meantime (which means no contact), because there is no guarantee he will call you.
Sheri
I did what you said. I just called him and told him that "Until you are 100% sure that you want to work things out call me" -- I told him that we started a relatinship together, that we got into issues together, so if we want or he wants to try this again is together not on a break... Then he said "okay" and we hung up.
Deep inside now I feel like he won't call. He insisted so much to be on a break...
AUGH!!! Now I am back to square one since we broke up.
You did the right thing for yourself...and I've been where you are many times (had to start back at square one again). You'll be ok...I know it doesn't seem like it now, but you will be.
Sheri