Help. What to talk about?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Help. What to talk about?
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Thu, 04-19-2007 - 2:26pm

Hello,

I need your help urgently. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago over the phone. We did not talk since. He is coming tonite to pick up his stuff and we agreed to go for a walk and talk.
I dont know what to talk about? should I tell him exactly how I feel or just play along and see what he has to say.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2006
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 3:05pm

It would be helpful to know more about the nature and dynamics of your former relationship, and what lead to it ending.

Talking about a relationship so soon after it ends is usually not a good idea. Three weeks is not a lot of time, and ideally, "moving forward" versus reflecting on the recent past, should be the standard.

There might come a point when the two of you can talk about things, but it doesn't have to be right now.

mblade2006

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 3:08pm

Hi Juilara,


If after the walk, you will reget not speaking up, speaking your truth, then you need to do so. However, I don't recommend you start out on the 'attack' - go with the flow, let it be a nice conversation if possible and see what he has to say.




iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 4:02pm

Well, what do you want the outcome to be?


If you want to reconcile, believe it or not, talk about anything BUT the relationship.

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