Help....break up problem :(
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Help....break up problem :(
| Mon, 09-17-2007 - 2:44am |
I was dating this guy for around 8-9 months when he suddenly finished it for no reason at all! soon after he was running after me asking for me back when i refused. I still loved him so i decided to give things another go. One day when he was in the shower i sent a text message off his phone and immediately after the message was sent his inbox came up, straight away i saw the name nadia. After reading a few messages i read his sent messages and they were quite a few associated with the words '' gorgeous'' and ''babes''. Also in one of the messages it said he couldnt wait to see her and that he had a few cheeky pictures of both of them together on holiday. He swears he hasnt cheated

My suggestion to you is to leave this guy. My ex boyfriend and I, I thought, had been working on things and getting back together, but I found out the other night that he had been falling for one of his friends and commenting on her pictures online with comments like "you are beautiful" and "I would call 911 if i knew you would come" or " you are so sexy." Much to my surprise, he had interest in this girl and intended on dating her, but did not tell me straight up and when i confronted him about her, he told me she was just a friend and he wanted to work things with me. Now, here I sit alone and upset because he has chosen to pursue her and I had been completely oblivious all along. No girl deserves to be played off by a guy and no guy who is involved with someone should be writing to other girls and telling them they are beautiful and cute and any other comments like that. Don't stick around till you get screwed over. Leave him and let him realize that he cannot be saying those things to other girls while he is dating you. Be strong, you don't deserve this!
Jennifer
Welcome to the board bexyboobag,
Most liars/cheaters will deny everything and confirm nothing, so my best advice is to trust your gut feeling and do what's in your best interest.
Everyone grieves for a different period of time when processing grief -
Relationship Grieving Process
I can't tell you how long it will take you to get over him, but he is definitely no longer worth your time. I only found out last friday about my ex, so I'm just beginning the process of getting over him and bringing my life back together. I found a great quote that I read multiple times a day, "I don't miss him, I miss who I thought he was." Last night I heard the new Daughtry song "Over You" on the radio and I can't stop listening to it. If you ever need someone to commiserate with, just e-mail me. I am trying to do whatever I can take to forget him. I'm going on my 2nd day of no contact and I hope to never go backwards again.
And to answer your other two questions, don't try to get revenge because it's better to take the high road and show him that he's not worth your time. Also, it will probably hurt to see him with another girl, so just avoid seeing him in any way possible. Just thinking about him being with another girl is hard, but I tell myself that she is nothing compared to me.
Jennifer
I definitely agree that two wrongs do not make a right. I don't even want to know when and where my EX was hanging out with this girl. Honestly, right now, I would much rather move on with my life and not allow him to take up any more of my life than I have to. Hurting and being upset over him is plenty for now. And, over time, he will only be thing of my past and I will find a man who is truly worthy of everything I have to give. Then, my EX will be stuck with her, his rebound girl, while I have found true happiness. We need to both just keep counting the days since we have spoken to our EX's and let them keep coming. I'm on 2 1/2 days and counting! :)
Jennifer
I wouldn't jump back into his arms quite yet. Honestly, if you start being friends with him again, you might put yourself in the same situation I was in for over 3 months. My EX broke up with me officially in June, but we continued to talk from then on and look where it got me. It got me 3 months more pain and an end that cannot compare to anything I have ever enountered. And we decided to work things out less than 3 weeks ago and it took him less than 2 weeks after we decided to work things our for him to profess his feelings for another girl. Just take my advice and at least wait it out till you are back to yourself and won't go running back to his arms.
Jennifer