Help..Can't Stop Hurting!
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Help..Can't Stop Hurting!
| Thu, 11-18-2004 - 3:01pm |
Hi..I used to be on the long distance relationship board, but since my long distance relationship has ended, I thought this would be better. I was with my boyfirend for about 4 years, the last 2 1/2 were long distance (MA to VA). I love him SOOOO much it makes me sick to my stomache!! I broke up with him in May because I didn't feel I was as high of a priority for him as I should be. I was devasted, but tired of feeling hurt. About two weeks later, we decided to start talking again. I went to see him in August and we agreed to try, but it never really worked out. Neither of our needs were being met. The biggest problem is the fact that he is still in college and I work full time. We have different lifestyles and priorities and he is 800 miles away. He one of my best friends and knows me better than anyone. I can't shut him out of my life because I need his friendship, but it is SO hard. We both believe it can work, just not in our current situation. So, I don't know what to do. I miss him SOOO much, but I know it can't work right now. I just don't know how to make it stop hurting so much. No matter how upset I get with him or how unrealistic our situation is, I can't stop feeling like he is a part of me. Any thoughts?
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| Thu, 11-18-2004 - 7:06pm |
Hon, after a break up there is always a period of time when feelings of loss and sadness are overwhelming and there is NO chance of being friends with your EX before getting over him. You dated him but now you're not anymore and you feel sick. You feel you lost him because you love him, still. Give yourself time to get over him and then you can be his friend. You should not contact him until you feel you're not in love with him anymore. The fact that you don't talk to him won't affect your friendship. It's just a stage in whcih you ask for time to get over those feelings of loss and emptiness.
