Her help didnt come in time

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Her help didnt come in time
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Sun, 12-24-2006 - 2:42pm
My sister left me a note this evening asking me to come to this site and read her message. I didn't know she was in so much pain. My sister killed herself tonight. I won't go into details about how she did it but she said she couldn't go on anymore. She called me and asked me to come save her, she was scared. She didn't sound right so I rushed over there but it was too late. She was gone. The last number on her cell phone was an 800 number that I see now on this site was a suicide hotline. In her letter she said she was sorry. She felt that it wouldn't get better and she didn't want the kids to suffer anymore with her depression. Thank you for trying to help her. Thank you for giving her the advice that you gave her because she did in some way hear you. We didn't know things were so bad for her. I miss her already.
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Mon, 12-25-2006 - 3:41pm


Carrie

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 2:57pm

I am so so sorry, about your sister. In the last week and last 2 months I have felt the same as your sister and wanted to do the same, except i haven't looked at my pills wanted to swallow them for what? For what? For a terrible man. I was in minupulating and abusive realtionship and trying to face the truth.
I am also here this week on this message board for survival myself.

Quick question did your sister have post pardom depression?

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 2:40pm
No her depression wasn't from post partum. She just hasn't been happy since her divorce from her kids' father four years ago. She felt she did everything she could for him and the kids and he still cheated on her. And she's never been able to let go of that. I just didn't know it hurt her so deeply. She hasn't had a good relationship since because she was scared every man she loved would do the same thing.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 3:00pm

Hello Halfbarnes,

I went home last night and felt guilty for asking such a personal questions, I am sorry, I felt I was intruding and it was none of my business.

Your sister was in pain such as I am now. Today I called therapists to get help, I feel embarassed of my situation I just came out of, I'm an educated, sucessful woman, who comes from a honest sucessful family and I got involved with a cheater and a liar who vebually abused me mentally, I'm sorry I was the other woman, i was with a married man for a year, you ask yourself how stupid was I what's wrong with me? How did get minupulated for so long? And I understnd what your sister felt I felt like that a 2 months ago and almost swollowed 60 pill of xanax, I was in so much pain I can not even explain, than my mother called, and she new , she heard me crying for the first time in my life and But sad enough I went back to the garbage man 2 more times, I hope and pray I stay away this time and build my self-esteem and self-worth which I always had, until this piece of garbage took it from me.

Once again I'm sorry about your sister, I hope I can give you a little insight into what she felt.

My prayers are with you and your family and your sister's children.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 3:03pm

As the leader of this board, I wanted to extend to you my condolences on the death of your sister.

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Registered: 12-28-2006
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 12:44pm
I am so very saddened to hear of the loss of your sister. I wish there was something I could say to make it better. Please know that there is support here for you any time you need it. I'm new to this board, but I have found comfort in just knowing it exists even if it's just to read other's posts and know I'm not alone in my pain. Please reach out if you need to.
Lynn
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Registered: 01-22-2004
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 6:38pm
I am so sorry about your sister. I read her posting last night and then yours. I read her profile, and it sounded like she was so full of life at one point. I am so sorry that she couldn't get past her hurt and depression. I was so shocked and sadded at what I read that I couldn't respond last night. I prayed for her and you and your family last night. It puts my own pain into a lot of perspective. I wish my words to you could bring you help and comfort. Please know that there are people here who you haven't even met who are wishing you well and hoping that your pain is eased with each day.
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Registered: 04-01-2006
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 7:22pm

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I sit here in amazement at my 8 month old daughter and am ashamed to admit that I have considered taking my own life more than once in the last 2 months.

I want you to know that by reading about your loss, it has helped me to see the bigger picture, I don't want my children to grow up without me and that they have to be my prime focus.

I know it may not be much comfort now but take heart in knowing that your sister's death may have just saved a life....mine. So, thank you.

J.

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 7:53pm
Tyarna, take care of yourself! Your life is important, not just to your daughter but to others, as well. You will get through this rough time. No man, no problem, nothing is worth taking your life. We all have good things in store and have to get through these difficult times to see them.