Here I Go Again......

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Here I Go Again......
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Tue, 10-16-2007 - 12:14pm

Just so sad. We have been doing the "breakup dance" for about a year now, bouncing back and forth being together and not together and then together. I think

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 1:31pm

Hi lani57,


A year of the break-up dance is hard to do (over and over again)..... espeically if nothing was done to help the situation - communication, counseling, good self-help books.


You will get through this.





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Registered: 10-16-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 2:10pm
Go with your gut Lani. My first "real" relationship lasted four years and we did the break up to make up routine quite a few times. When promotions kept him moving further and further away we both knew it wasn't going to work. There was nothing really wrong with our relationship we were just at two different places in our lives. We both knew it was for the best and after about 6 months of total NC we started talking again and have been really good friends since then (2 years). Some things work themselves out over time. Maybe this isn't the right time for you two, or maybe he isn't the right person but you have to figure out what is best for you.
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Registered: 02-15-2007
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 3:04pm

I'm really trying to trust my gut but right now it's having a hard time convincing me. He has tried so hard to meet me more than halfway the past several months, but it was like I had already reached that point of no return and couldn't go back 100%. I sure I hope I start feeling better soon. Walking around fighting tears at work is getting old. Sometimes I go into the bathroom and let myself cry a little to relieve some stress.


I saw him yesterday at an intersection and I waved. He called me and was acting all chipper. One of the problems I had in breaking up with him was worrying about him being sad and missing me, so I guess he's trying to show me he's really ok. He wants me to come back only if it's what I want and not because I can't stand for him to be sad.