here is my story, advice, please?!
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| Wed, 04-19-2006 - 6:03pm |
the day after my bf broke up with me on the phone, he brought over all of my things. he told me his feelings had changed, he didnt quite know what he was feeling, but he just couldnt see himself being with me in the future. so as he left he hugged me for a long long time, held my hand, kissed my face, told me he loved me. and left.
4 days later, he told me he made a mistake, was very much in love with me, missed me, and wanted to be with me forever.
a week later, he told me he wasnt "in" love with me. he did not want to work it out, and did not want to get counseling. he said, maybe 4 days wasnt enough time, maybe he needed a month or so. so after 5 days of not talking to him, i asked him if we could work on it. he said his mind was made up, it was the right thing to do. although he was sad and missed me. he also said that time would be good for both of us.
we were together 1.5 years, he is 32 i am 25. i am just so confused about what happened. can anyone or everyone offer me some advice? i would really appreciate it.

Can you clarify something please? What is your current status--are you on a break for a month and he's supposed to let you know then what his decision is? Or did the two of you actually break up?
Sheri
HI LONELY
one thing i could tell you. you dont deserved him. i guess what happen is he broke up with you and after 4 days he realized his crazy and get scared that he loss you. get back with you. ofcourse you were in love with him. get back together again and you didnt give him lesson. so now i'm assuming he just do whatever he wants any ways. no matter what happen you'll be there for him.
i mean some guys are like that. as a friendly advised just respect his desicion.bcoz if you keep on calling him and bugging him. he will never know your value and you might scared him away more. well this all up to you anyways i wish you good luck!!
hi sheri,
we are not on a break. we are broken up. he has mentioned needing more time, at one point, i guess to figure out what he wants? im not sure. im just confused.
Ok, thanks for clarifying. It sounds like you need to start the grieving/moving on process, then. Have you read "It's Called a Breakup Because it's Broken"? That's a good starting point...and it may even make you laugh a little, which I'm sure you could use right now!
Sheri