"He thought he couldnt afford to pay child support so I have stayed."
You allowed yourself to be manipulated to stay in this relationship really, really easily.
You told him you were done, you're sick of his repeated cheating, and now you follow through with it, because the alternative is to stay and CONTINUE TO BE CHEATED ON.
It sucks that things are now so shaken that you have to make a huge decision and split up the family, but it's HE who put you in this position, and things aren't going to be ideal either way. At least by leaving you will be able to respect yourself.
I realized long ago that he does manipulate me....My problem is...I DONT WANT TO FIGHT! I hate it and try to avoid it even if its not right. I need to be more assertive and stand up.
Well? if you are divorced then you can sell everything and split the assets and then move on. That is what happens in divorce right.
I am assuming if that doesnt happen one of you has to leave the house. If its him then he is obligated to pay child support and maybe spousal support.
I know how this goes. I am divorced from my husband and he stayed in the marital property. I got a divorce settlement and moved out for a few years.
Lo and behold I lost my job and the economy tanked and so I moved in with my family.. Its not pleasant and I find myself from time to time going back to my old home and staying there on and off with ex husband but only as room mates. I truly thinks its nuts but I have no choice at times as my sis moves in her abusive alcoholic bfriend here and