he's in love again
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| Sun, 03-16-2008 - 7:55am |
I've been posting on this sight for at least two months or so now. I've definently been experiencing the thrill ride of the emotional roller coaster, it has not been a pleasant thrill at all. This has been one of the most painful experiences ever. So anyways, to the point. My ex and i ended 4 months ago, he left, hardly looked back. I think he moved on before we ended and i hadn't even begun. So now he is in love with his new girlfriend. I've been an idiot and looked at his myspace and saw their pictures (i have a bad habit of checking it when i feel like i've been doing a lot better, i know its very idiotic of me). He's got one of the two of them holding eachother in the snow while they were on some trip. He labeled the bottom of it "The best time i've ever had" and they look so happy in the picture. i knew he was dating someone cuz he started dating her within the month of us breaking up and now they're both on cloud nine. i know i should be moving on and not caring but omg this has been the worst feeling

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Reading your post was like reading my own mind!
Oh, I can totally empathize.
Gotta stop checking MySpace. It's hindering your healing and progress.
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i'm sorry this happened to you. i'm going through the same thing.
mine got with a new gf within days after our breakup (half year ago. we were together for 3 years). it hurts A LOT.
trty to hang in there. and try not to look at his pages. i know it's hard, but in the long run it's for the best.
The steps are: Face It, Accept It, See The Lessons and Take Yourself To A New Level.
The first step is Face It. The alternative to facing it, is denying it. You can accelerate your healing process by facing what you need to face. It's important to know what to face and how. This is a crucial step to start feeling better.
The second step in the Extreme F.A.S.T. breakup recovery method is Accept It. Acceptance means that we can look into ourselves for honest answers about specific issues from the relationship.
The third step in the Extreme F.A.S.T. breakup recovery method is See The Lessons. Life is always guiding us to what is best for us. Through joyful and painful experiences, you learn lessons that help you grow. The key is to know where to look for the lessons, and how to make sense of the experiences. As you see the particular lessons you prepare for fulfilling and healthy relationships.
The fourth and last step in the Extreme F.A.S.T. breakup recovery method is Take Yourself To A New Level. This means to get to a new level in your life where you can start living in a more fulfilling way.This step also includes specific strategies to increase your self-esteem.
Not to be insensitive, but how old are you? You say you wish you would have seen it and been the one who dumped him (by the way, for what it's worth, I do think you saw it coming, but I do not think you would have ever dumped him) - but why does it matter who dumps whom? Do you think it would hurt any less if you had left him? I'm asking because it seemed like kind of an immature statement.
Yes, I have been through this before. I really thought I'd never move on. And I mean, never. It was with a guy I kept dumping (for dramatic effect, not because I really wanted to end it). He called my bluff one day and said if I did it, it would be the last time, and he wasn't ever going to be in a relationship with me.
It hit me like a ton of bricks. When I realized he no longer saw me as his possible wife, as the future mother of his children, but I still pictured him as the one I'd spend the rest of my life with. And yes, I saw and met his new girlfriend, who he picked up about six months later. You WILL get over it. You WILL meet someone so much more amazing, you won't even believe this guy meant that much to you. But you won't meet him stalking his myspace, before you are able to become someone that a great guy can fall in love with, you have to be at a better place in your life. Give it time. And, above ALL else, do NOT let him see or hear of how you're feeling. In fact, if you meet the happy couple, do your absolute best to be gracious and mature.
"Wherever you go, go with all your heart." -Confucius
You're right crashdoll. it probably was immature to say i wish i had been the one who had dumped him instead of the other way around. and yeah, i'm pretty young, it was my first major relationship, so
"i'm not going to allow myself to do anything that ruins my progress."
good for you!
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