he's in love again
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| Sun, 03-16-2008 - 7:55am |
I've been posting on this sight for at least two months or so now. I've definently been experiencing the thrill ride of the emotional roller coaster, it has not been a pleasant thrill at all. This has been one of the most painful experiences ever. So anyways, to the point. My ex and i ended 4 months ago, he left, hardly looked back. I think he moved on before we ended and i hadn't even begun. So now he is in love with his new girlfriend. I've been an idiot and looked at his myspace and saw their pictures (i have a bad habit of checking it when i feel like i've been doing a lot better, i know its very idiotic of me). He's got one of the two of them holding eachother in the snow while they were on some trip. He labeled the bottom of it "The best time i've ever had" and they look so happy in the picture. i knew he was dating someone cuz he started dating her within the month of us breaking up and now they're both on cloud nine. i know i should be moving on and not caring but omg this has been the worst feeling

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I did love my ex (I loved all of them), and I put a lot of hopes for the future on him, so when he left, I felt like I had lost all my plans and hopes for our future. That happens when you date someone, you naturally start thinking of the future with him in it. That might be why his new girl really hurts - seeing or hearing about her is proof that the future you thought you'd have with him is now not going to happen.
You'll meet someone better, trust me. Well, you don't know me, so you really don't have a reason to trust me, I guess. Okay, well here's my proof positive:
Four years ago, I like, absolutely grieved my ex-fiancee mostly because I thought I'd never find a guy like him again (he was smart, funny, good looking, college baseball player, that sort of thing). I just thought it was downhill from there. Until I met and dated this guy who was a walking Abercrombie model. 6'2", gorgeous, really great sense of humor, we clicked. That ended (that's the guy I was referring to in my last post to you). After him, was the in my avatar. Ambitious, thoughtful, hilarious, good-looking, and treated me like a princess. That recently ended. But I refuse to dwell on it too much.
My point is, with each breakup, especially your first few, you're going to feel like you're not sure if you will be happy again. But each time, you do recover. And you do become happier again. Hopefully you won't have to go through a ton of breakups or anything, but it takes a few to show you that you WILL be okay and you WILL be even happier. We all wonder if we'll never get over this guy. But we all eventually do. This too, shall pass.
"Wherever you go, go with all your heart." -Confucius
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