He's moving across the country...
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| Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:50pm |
So my ex (we broke up about a year ago and we were together 6 years)is moving to cali and we both live in Boston. Part of me is jealous and part of me is glad he won't be in the same area anymore. It seems I do best when I live as though he doesn't exsist!
I normally hold up no contact pretty well however since he is moving, he emailed and said he wants to get together. I am worried that it will send me into an emotional tailspin but I kind of want the opportunity to show how well I am doing so I can save some face from some previous pathetic behavior that happened back in May.
I don't know I guess I am doing ok with it lately but otherwise I'm cofused on my feelings for him. I mean i just don't know. I want to get over it and move on! I don't have trouble dating new guys but nothing ever sticks...
Has anyone had an experience where their ex moved or you moved and it made things easier? I am just finishing up grad school and thinking of moving myself...maybe a new scene will help?

I am not going through a break-up now but I did several years ago and decided I really wanted to make a fresh start, 800+ miles away (from Atlanta to Chicago). It was a great move, I actually didn't know anyone here and had only spent about 48 hours here, never saw my apartment until I was actually moving in, but something just told me I needed to be here. Believe me when I say I had no reason to go other than just simply feeling like it. It was a great move, not only for the fresh start and new scenery but also because it was a great distraction, I was looking for a job, meeting new people and learning my way around, no time to think about my idiot ex back in Atlanta. I moved back to Atlanta for an ex (not the same one) a year later, realized I made a big fat mistake and now I am back in Chicago to stay.
Also, I would avoid seeing him before he goes. I know it sounds like a good idea and you might want to say goodbye but it will likely put you in a tailspin and declining his invitation is a clear signal to him you have moved on.
Hi diva012,
You've been broken up a year, but something happened in May.... so you haven't done 'no contact' for very long.