He's so cold now

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Registered: 04-01-2004
He's so cold now
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Wed, 05-31-2006 - 11:28am
We are in the process of severing ties & making arrangements for him to pick up his stuf from my place. I feel like a fool for holding onto this relatiohsip for the past 2 months. Part of me hates him right now for leading me on and part of me still adores him. He sent me 2 e-mails about his stuff yesterday which I ignored. He called last night around midnight and left a message asking if I had gotten the e-mails and if I was still up to call him back. I responded to the e-mails today, saying that he could get his stuff whenever, just let me know. And I asked him specifically if his friend had admitted or denied that he has been calling me the past month telling me my now ex's whereabouts & trying to make future plans to get together. Whatever his friends told him 10 days ago really sent him nuts and he blamed me - so Monday I told him he should realize that I am not to blame & maybe he should ask his friends to stop calling me. ANyways - he said that his one friend did admit it when confronted & I replied that maybe he will realize now that I am not to blame for whatever he was told. He said "I am not concerned about it, I have bigger things to worry about now". How rude! Heartless creep and I fell for it. I wont hear from him again - one day I will get home and his stuff will just be gone. It makes me so angry, and yet I miss him so desperatly. He just can't be in a relationship right now apparently. I think it is that he just can't be in one with me and that if that was how he felt he should have told me that before we made all these life plans together and called the real estate agents etc. This man broke my heart.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-31-2006 - 12:36pm

Well, in a way it's good he's behaving like a jerk...you can see his true colors now.

The sooner you're able to completely cut off contact the sooner you'll start to heal and move on.

And that means no talking to his friends either (I'm not clear on whether you still are or not though).

Sheri

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Registered: 06-01-2006
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 11:04pm
i think its actually easier when the guys a jerk. then you can hate him. youll get over it, but try having an understanding ex, who tries not to hurt you, and still holds you if your crying around him. doesnt make saying goodbye very easy.
hes prob just doing it to distance himself. you should distance yourself too. but dont be a bitch.