Im up and going heading toward another day! And your right its not a little thing its a big thing in some ways. But it has to be, because my reaction to it wasnt good.
Well I felt the same way you are feeling. I broke up with my ex because he was sneaking aroudn behind my back for three calling his ex 10 times a day, lying and verbally abusive. Then like an idiot I took him back only to kick him out 2 months later.
And for some odd reason I knew it was the right thing but I was really upset. I think more at myself for allowing this person back into my life. We were engaged. Not a month later I called him on a Fri night & he was in a night club with a girl & for some stupid reason I called him again the following day & he was with her & told her to tell me to F off. Which she actually did. I didn't contact him since then & then I got this text msg at the begining of the week from him sayign how he loved me & I was his true love & bla bla bla. I deleted it & didn't respond. SInce then I've gotten two unknown calls on my cell which I pretty sure are from him. The guy is an idiot.
I've been reading self help books too and they have helped me recongnize that I give men like that a chance & I shouldn't at all. So, since this horrible break-up I've learned what I don't want to be with and what I will not tolerate so I'm more prepared to meet genuinly good men in the future.
"Why men love bitches" Is a great read and "Getting to I DO" is eye opening & I highly recomend both.
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Carrie,
Thanks...it was exactly what I was looking for because it not only made some sense to me but it left me with a few thoughts of my own.
First off your right, about false hopes, any act of kindness at this point would appear that way to me or for that manner to anyone in this situation.
Thanks Claudia,
Im up and going heading toward another day! And your right its not a little thing its a big thing in some ways. But it has to be, because my reaction to it wasnt good.
He came along at time in my life where I was alone and feeling so bad....the end of my 20 year marriage.
Well I felt the same way you are feeling. I broke up with my ex because he was sneaking aroudn behind my back for three calling his ex 10 times a day, lying and verbally abusive. Then like an idiot I took him back only to kick him out 2 months later.
And for some odd reason I knew it was the right thing but I was really upset. I think more at myself for allowing this person back into my life. We were engaged. Not a month later I called him on a Fri night & he was in a night club with a girl & for some stupid reason I called him again the following day & he was with her & told her to tell me to F off. Which she actually did. I didn't contact him since then & then I got this text msg at the begining of the week from him sayign how he loved me & I was his true love & bla bla bla. I deleted it & didn't respond. SInce then I've gotten two unknown calls on my cell which I pretty sure are from him. The guy is an idiot.
I've been reading self help books too and they have helped me recongnize that I give men like that a chance & I shouldn't at all. So, since this horrible break-up I've learned what I don't want to be with and what I will not tolerate so I'm more prepared to meet genuinly good men in the future.
"Why men love bitches" Is a great read and "Getting to I DO" is eye opening & I highly recomend both.
Thanks mdrsfr for your post..and I think your right! I went from being dependent upon my exh for my happiness to depending on T for the same thing.
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