His birthday is coming up...

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Registered: 03-30-2003
His birthday is coming up...
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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 3:04am
His birthday is on the 10th of this month, and I don't know if I should call just to say Happy Birthday. I can see how it would set me back, but I'd also like to be nice and say it. I don't know if it will really mean anything for him, and I am positive it won't make him come back to me. What should I do? My birthday will be in November, and I wonder if he will call me on my birthday as well..that I won't know until then of course, but in the mean time, what do you guys think? Should I be friendly and say Happy Birthday even though it will hurt to speak with him and letting him know I was thinking of him?

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Registered: 09-19-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 9:48pm

It's amazing, isn't it, how fantasy...our imagination...something pretend, can bring us so much pain? It makes me think about what is real. Sometimes what is real is that I am sad. Sometimes what is real is that there is a warm, fall sun outside, or my new basil plant tastes fantastic on my tongue, or a friend said something that made me laugh and warmed my tummy.

I often get caught up in what I call "spinning thoughts"...they are fantasy-based "what ifs"..."if onlys" that kind of thing. What do you do to pull yourself out of the spinning?

Claudia

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:06pm

oh I usually went out and sprinted until I collapsed. When you're trying to re-learn how to breathe, there's no energy left for thinking about him.

Plus it's fun when you drop 3 pant sizes in a month

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 3:59am

So I decided that I will not call/email/text my ex on his birthday (hopefully I wont change my mind on that day since I know i will be thinking about him more). Today I received the certificate/map of the land I bought on the moon for us with our names on it. It's so cute, I almost want to give it to him but I know it won't mean anything to him. Maybe one day I'll give it to him. It's making me sort of angry that he doesn't even want to talk to me, although I understand he is trying to get over me, I guess I thought he'd miss me so much he would just give in. lol.

Sometimes I think I am the only one on the messageboard at this time of night since I'm probably the only one that lives the farthest out. I like coming home and reading new posts, it's the first thing i read when I wake up and last time before I sleep. this board helps me so much! i didn't even look at his myspace page today :)

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Registered: 09-19-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 7:17am

'I like coming home and reading new posts, it's the first thing i read when I wake up and last time before I sleep. this board helps me so much!"

Me, too.

"i didn't even look at his myspace page today"

Good job!

I'm so glad my ex doesn't have a myspace page.

Claudia

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