His Dad Passed Away

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Registered: 09-29-2006
His Dad Passed Away
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Wed, 01-31-2007 - 8:09pm
I just found out his dad passed away a couple of days ago (he's been ill for quite some time). One of my coworkers saw it in the paper and called me. I feel like I should acknowledge this in some way but really don't want to call him. If I call him I know I will get upset and I don't want to do that. My friend offered to go to the visitaion with me but I don't really want to do that either. What would you all do?

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Registered: 09-29-2006
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 8:55pm
Well, I decided to go to the visitation and a friend went with me. It went very well. We got there toward the end and there weren't very many people there. Everyone, including my ex seemed really glad to see me. He took me around and showed me all the pictures and introduced me to some people I had never met. He didn't say I was his ex-girlfriend, just introduced me by name. I thought we both did very well. He hugged me and thanked me for coming and never mentioned anything about us not talking before. He did not say anything about calling me or anything further--we just focused on tonight. Right now I am really glad I went. I just felt it was the right thing to do so I took a nerve pill and a deep breath and went.
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Registered: 04-27-2006
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 6:56am
Good, I'm glad you went and it went well. You did the right thing.
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 11:25am

I'm really glad it went well.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 11:40am
i'm glad to hear it went smoothly. i think in the long run, several years down the line when this is all a distant memory, you will be very glad that you went. i know if that were me, i would most certainly want to show my respect to both my ex and his father by paying my respects...good for you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 12:37pm

Good, I'm glad you did what felt right for *you*, and that it went well.

Sheri

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