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| Sat, 05-05-2007 - 12:41pm |
After breaking up with cheating, lying boyfriend of two years, I was doing great! I was finally moving on. He was still calling and coming by, but he seemed kind of sad and as bad as this sounds, it made me feel good. He told me that he wasn't dating, he was lonely, blah, blah, blah...And then last weekend I get a call from his new girlfriend asking me if we were still dating. I told her no, but that he was calling, making suggestive remarks, and all of that good stuff. I told her that we had not been together since January. Surprise, she said they had been dating since Novemeber. She was really nice and we got to talking and I told her about the horrible two years we spent together. When I suggested she get checked for STDs as I was planning on doing so she told me that she already knew he had herpes, he told her up front. In two years, he never bothered mentioning that to me. I was and am shocked! I called him up and told him off. He said he never cared about me, this girl was the love of his life and he called me a bunch of horrible names. I have never been more humiliated in my life. Its hell just to get out of bed and being a single mom thats not good. I don't know what to do or how to get over this!

I had something similar happen to me. I was dating a guy and he was caught up on his ex, the mother of his daughter. He acted as though he didn't care about her and was over her. Well, as soon as he found out she had a new boyfriend he went bonkers. I didn't know why he just dropped me and didn't call anymore and wouldn't answer my calls or call me back. Well, after being devastated because I didn't get closure and just got dumped with no explanation, I decided to try to pull myself together and move on. Well a week later I'm on my way home from being out at dinner with a guy friend and his ex calls me. Asking why I won't leave him alone. I told her I hadn't contacted him that in fact he had called me earlier that day to say hi. She said that he told her that I was obsessed with him and he was tying to get rid of me for months but I wouldn't let up. I was so mad. I told her this wasn't true and that he was lying and that she should know he wasn't gonna say, "yeah, she is so flippin gorgeous and sexy and she really put it on me and I'm surprised someone so fantastic wanted a guy like me." I told her he's not going to make you think he's head over heels for me if he wants you back. You can't believe everything a man tells you. Well, that conversation ended very badly. After they called me back many times becuase I kept hanging up and didn't want any part of their drama, and she put her older sister on the phone and they were telling me to meet them at the bar they were at becuase they were going to kick my a$$, he finally got on the phone and tried to make me look like a liar. He had me on speaker and I basically called him on his crap and said, "you know I haven't called you and you know none of this is true. I don't deserve this why dont you leave me alone and go be happy with her. Just leave me out of it." He then yelled at the top of his lungs (while on speaker) and said, "I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU ANY MORE! LEAVE ME ALONE!!" then hung up on me. I didn't hear anymore from them. In fact I started seeing my male friend and started taking care of my body and working out more. I lost about 15 lbs and saw him while was out with my new guy. His chin dropped. I looked fabulous and I knew it. In fact he called a couple months later and tried to say, "have you been calling my house for me?" I said no. I don't even have that number. He tried to make conversation with me and I said, "why would I want to talk to you after you acted like such a jackass. Do me a favor, why don't you and !*%#$@*@# keep my name out of your mouth and out of your mind." My new guy was right next to me and wanted to get on the phone but I handled it myself. I didn't want to stoop to his level. but I got the last word. I came out on top. In fact, I'm so over it now. I realize I'm the fabulous one and him and his ghetto girlfriend are losers. They will never be on my level. In fact I hope after I get my bachelors degree and I am making tons of money I run into them again. This time I hope they're the clients of the major corporation I'm working for. LOL! So just work on loving yourself. Stay in shape, pamper yourself, get or give yourself pedicures and manicures, get your hair done, buy an outfit that makes you feel beautiful and sexy and fantastic, or put one old faithful outfit on that you already have that does that, read books that make you feel good. ( I recommend, "He's just not that into you" and "It's called a breakup becuase it's broken. The smart girls breakup buddy" both my Greg Behrendt. I have read these books tons of times and they help my prospective a lot. And work out so when you run into him you look even better then before and he'll drool all over himself because he no longer has you and can't have you and his girl will look at you with envy because you are so damn gorgeous! It'll feel so great.
Edited 5/5/2007 6:33 pm ET by mstillie_n