Hoping he comes back!
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Hoping he comes back!
| Mon, 03-27-2006 - 12:53pm |
I feel like I really want to call my ex, I dont even think of him as my ex, i still think of him as my bf. We were together for 3 years, he broke up with me b/c he wasnt sure about marriage, he said it had to click and if it hadnt clicked now it wouldnt click. We had alot of discussions over me trying to get him to say i was the one and he never could. We wwould talk about marriage and he would make comments about our future, but finally 6 days ago he said he needed to spend time with himself and his family. His brother had a medical problem and I guess he felt i was an outsider. Finally he said he didnt want to lose me but it wasnt fair to me that he should know by now. I did so many things wrong and I feel like I just want his back. I was so immature in the beginning of our relationship, so needy and clingy, that this probably made it hard for him to realize I was the one. I did so many things wrong and I just want him back

hi lamago
i do understand your situation right now...its very hard esp if you really love the guy right and get used that his around and one thing you know his gone.
but stop blamming yourself. like in the beginning of your relationship like you mention theres already conflict. i mean its very natural esp if you have bad experience in your previews relationship right. those days are very top. both of you trying to develop trust feelings and everything.
about his problem with his family. i know most of the guys are like that they cannot deal TWO THING at the same time. not like us girl IN REALITY CHECK we could deal with different staff at same time COMPARE WITH MANS.
SO RIGHT NOW JUST RESPECT HIS DECISION LET HIM REALIZE YOUR VALUE. COZ YOU GUYS BEEN DATING FOR 3YRS SO I DONT THINK HE WONT MISS YOU AT ALL.
COZ LOOK IF YOU STILL BE AROUND HIM NOW AND HIS CONFUSED. YOU MIGHT MAKE YOUR SITUATION WORST.
SO IF YOU GIVE HIM SPACE AND THINK....I BET YOU HE WILL CALL YOU BACK...TRUST ME!!!
SO JUST RELAX AND MAKE YOUR DAY BUSY. I KNOW IS EASY TO SAY BUT ITS HARD TO DO IT. JUST REMEMBER...IN EACH SITUATION, WE DO WHAT WE CAN AND LEAVE THE REST UP TO GOD. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOU!!!
I'm sorry I rambled on and on. My advice is that if you love him, give him his space. Give him time to think and be with his family. I promise you he won't forget you. And take this space and do something good for you! Not giving him his space will only prolong the hurt and maybe even make him really not want to be with you! Not to sound rude or anything! I sound all optimistic now, and I'm sure that'll change.I feel like a big weight has been lifted because I was so busy thinking about him, spending time with him and analyzing everything that he said/did, wanting to get back together. But now I can concentrate on just me. Love myself again.Build up that self confidence because I know I was lacking in that! I can keep busy with work, be with my friends, do things and surround myself with people that make me feel good about who I am! I'll have my good days and bad days but I know that I have a place to turn to for all the support I need. Keep posting and keep us updated! If you want I'll give you my e mail address so we can talk some more. Hang in there girl! I know it's hard and we're here for you!
lilij5,
Thanks for telling me your story, I keep thinking I want to call him, that i dont want to lose my best friend. Now I see how it can be hard either way, I wish you the best. I would like to keep in contact, the worst part is that we would email almost every day and now nothing. We were really doing great before this happened, if only I had been more patient not brought it up. After he broke it off, it was hard for me not to call and he did call me once. Ive gone over every word we said a thousand times, my friends are tired of hearing it im sure. I only feel better when I think he's coming back, but isnt this setting myself up for more trouble? Anyhow, he did make a comment about it being hard to think with us still talking, but I kept calling. Then he said we both tried and it just didnt work. That we shouldnt try to be friends because it was unrealistic, that we couldnt plan to meet or talk someday because we would both just be waiting for that day to come.