hot to get over him.....

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Registered: 04-01-2007
hot to get over him.....
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 7:56pm
any ideas on how to get over a 5 1/2 year relationship when i love him completely and want him back?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 11:53pm

Welcome to the board angelwings2007,


It's going to take some time to get over a 5 1/2 yr relationship especially when you are still in love and want him back.


Here's some good reading material to consdier:


How To Get Over Your Breakup

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Registered: 11-08-2007
Thu, 12-13-2007 - 9:53pm

Hi Angelwings,

First of all I'm sorry for what your going through right now. Believe me I was in your same situation a month ago. My ex broke up with me 2 days before our 5 year anniversary and I was completely shattered and wanted him back. I know this is probably not what you want to hear (because i hated it when people used to say it to me)but time really does heal. Other things that helped me out was:
- Reconnecting with old friends (i lost a lot during the relationship and situations like these show you who you can really count on)
- Rediscovering yourself- what do you like to do for fun? was there anything you couldn't do while you were in the relationship but always wanted to try (i finally get to go snowboarding and am buying a dog soon)
- Take a vacation or at least go out of town for a bit...i think the one thing that helped me get over him the quickest was going to CA a week ago. Worked wonders.

I know every person grieves differently, but I'm here to say it will get better. A LOT better. I am a very emotional person. I took the breakup really hard. But if I can get over a 5 year relationship in one month, you can get over your 5.5 year relationship too. I mean yeah I still miss the RELATIONSHIP I used to have once in awhile but I do not under any circumstances want HIM back. I saw my ex a week ago and there were no residual feelings left over. Rediscovering myself helped me realize I'm better off.




Edited 12/13/2007 9:55 pm ET by ming_88
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Registered: 02-23-2005
Fri, 12-14-2007 - 4:11pm
I can't really say when it gets better because i'm at 2 1/2 months and feel actually worse, not better. I'm not trying to discourage you, becuase like the OP said, everyone is different. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I had almost the exact same thing happen with my 5-year relationship. (right before both our b-days and anniversary) I'm still very much in love with him but there has been no contact