How are you doing for the holidays?

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Registered: 06-22-2006
How are you doing for the holidays?
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 11:31am

Hey all,


Ok, so last night as I was crying into my Gingerbread latte from Starbucks (if you haven't tried it, TRY IT!

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Registered: 06-08-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 1:32pm

I am getting the heck out of dodge and visiting family in California for a week. This is kind of an annual trek for me and it is nice because I do not have think about dating, break ups or men at all. Its always like a mini vacation when I get to go out there. Even though it is kind of a tradition for me to go and visit this time of year, it is still a change for me to just get out of this town and away from all of the couples!

Happy holidays!
YG

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Registered: 06-05-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 2:02pm

I'm withya Sandra. Last Christmas was so wonderful with my ex-boyfriend. Actually on top of all the couple commercials, there have been 4 girls on my sales floor get engaged within the last month. Very happy for them but at times it brings me down. This Christmas, I am putting all my focus on my 6 year old daughter. New Years is going to be a tough one because again, last year I was with him. I am thinking about going out of town right after Christmas and visit with some friends that I have not seen for 3 years. Holidays are the worse to have a broken heart but it is not the end of the world. I really think once we hit the year anniversary of our break up, things will get so much better for us.

I will try the Starbucks drink you mentioned.

Take Care!

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 2:22pm
i am trying to remain as positive as possible around the holidays. i also go home (across the country) to see my family so i will be there for about 2 weeks which will be so nice and relaxing. i hope the distraction and being away from things will give me some clarity and maybe a little peace of mind for the first time in a while. what i'm really dreading is new years eve, i have a feeling that is going to upset me but i have to remind myself that it is ONE day, that this whole timeframe is going to pass by and if we can get through the holidays, hopefully it will be all downhill from there...right?

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Registered: 09-09-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 3:01pm

Hi...what am I doing to NOT think about my ex during the holidays? Well, for starters, I flew to Ft. Laurderdale for a few days over the Thanksgiving holiday. I just couldn't stand being home knowing that he was having Thanksgiving dinner with his new girlfriend. It was very therapeutic going away.

When I returned from my trip, I decided that I was not going to wallow in my tears because he certainly wasn't wallowing over me...I pulled out all of my decorations including my tree and put everything up. I felt so much better doing it.

I know it's so hard this time of year not being with the one you really want to be with. I truly am struggling with it everyday, but having a good support system like my friends, it helps. The one thing that doesn't help is getting a Christmas card from your ex, which I did yesterday. Ugh, it was the worst feeling in the world and again, I found myself wallowing, but I wasn't crying into my Gingerbread Latte like you were(boy that sounds good). I will need to make a trip to Starbucks soon.

Have a great holiday and think positive! A New Year is rapidly approaching and that means a new you.

Take Care,
GH

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Registered: 09-29-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 3:41pm

Mixed emotions on this one. Last year I was contemplating whether the relationship needed to continue and thinking of ending it after the holidays. That is not a great way to spend the holidays, either. I was aggravated with him Christmas eve because I wanted him to go to my family's with me, but HIS family changed their Christmas gathering to Christmas eve, so of course he wouldn't go against their plans. We fought on Christmas day because I asked him to go see my friends (who are like family) to exchange gifts and he did not want to go. It all made me realize how selfish he was. But then on New Years Eve, we had a wonderful time and were totally into each other. I was trying to take the good with the bad, but have struggled all year with whether/when to break up. I didn't think I could face another holiday season in limbo. I broke up with him about a month before Thanksgiving and his birthday.

So, the holidays are sad, but I think waiting until they are over to break up causes dread and confusion. I'm trying to stay busy and one of the things keeping me busy is Christmas shopping.

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Registered: 05-12-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 4:28pm

I am spending time with my new roommate and companion. She is a St. Bernard puppy I've had for a little over a month. She is 3 1/2 months old and growing rapidly. She has helped change the focus and what is on my mind somewhat. I still think about my situation more than I should and wish I did not.

I will be going to a Christmas party this weekend and have not decided to go alone or to ask someone to go with me. Most everyone there will be married with children.

But this time of year can be difficult.

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Registered: 11-09-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:37pm

Yesterday I put the tree up. It was hard, all the decorations are ones I collected with him, and there were a special ones that I left in the box. I can not help but think back on last year, we had a great holiday. I recalled what he gave me and what I gave him, it was all too sad. Then to make it worse, three years ago today his father died. I want to write to him, let him know I am thinking about him, but I am not sure it's the right thing (he can not write me back, he has no contact because of domestic violence and probation).

I am going to LA to spend xmas with my sister and niece. It will be nice to get some sun and be with her. She and I have both had a rough couple years.

My christmas wish? To get over him faster! (I already have my two front teeth, hah)

E

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Registered: 05-08-2006
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 9:59am

Oddly enough, I haven't felt sad at all about the holidays. Maybe it hasn't sunk in yet, I don't know.

Maybe because I'm so focused on finals, and on spending the time with my family.

My ex and I always would divide our time through the holidays between my family and his, but I'm not thinking about that.

He is officially in Ohio right now. Left Wednesday morning. This trip he'll be gone anywhere from 2 weeks to a month. Then they'll be back a couple of months and go back for a longer of period of time.

One thing that has helped me throughout this has been to just spend more time with my family since I hardly see them anymore as I live 45 minutes away, and my best friend.

I may post on here about how I can help my best friend as she is going through some stuff with her current BF.

~Amber

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Registered: 09-24-2003
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 11:04am

I thought I would be really depressed because I was looking forward to spending the holidays with my ex (he broke it off a few days before Thanksgiving) but I have been going to a lot of Holiday parties and am having a good time. There is one I'm attending on Saturday night that I am really lloking forward too and have a great new dress and all. I can't wait!

I am also off the week of Christmas so I am going to take that time to repaint the walls in my condo, pick out a new bedroom set, and have friends over for dinner (I love to cook)!

I still miss my ex but not as badly as I thought.

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Registered: 05-13-2004
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 11:18am
I'm drinking lots of starbucks...try the peppermint mocha with soy milk...its to die for! and with a little packet of the chocolate covered ghrahm crackers...yummmm! ANYWAY Im leaving Florida and my cheating ex behind! While home I'm making plans to move and completing my college applications to go back for my Masters! Talk about empowering, the loser who cheated is a 42 year old bartender! Im going skiing in NY and having a blast with my friends I see twice a year. Im not much of a Christmas person anyway, I'm just looking forward to the vacation and my mom spoiling me rotten for a week : )