how can he be so cold??

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Registered: 09-28-2006
how can he be so cold??
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Sat, 01-19-2008 - 10:35pm
i made the mistake by breaking nc. something i never should of done.i called his phone from a diff cell

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 1:23pm
I'm not sure why he is so cold.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 3:06pm
cuteness_17 - if he was nice to you and not cold, it would feed you false hope that the two of you were getting back together, you would think you still have a chance with him.
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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 4:33pm

Hi cuteness,

I know what you mean about guys being cold sometimes. After 10 years of friendship and 3.5 years of a relationship mine got upset enough 3 weeks ago to take off from our house and back to our hometown and hasn't talked to me since. I think that them being cold is a defense mechanism or makes them feel better about what's going on. Who knows?




Edited 1/20/2008 4:34 pm ET by marcie1617
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Registered: 02-23-2005
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 4:34pm
Cute-You are looking for validation in all the wrong places. Would it matter if he's cold? Would it matter if he's friendly? NO! It does not matter! You have to control what you can control...you!


Edited 1/21/2008 4:36 pm ET by mdrsfr

 

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Registered: 02-08-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:05am

Hey cuteness_17 -

YOU ARE OKAY WITHOUT HIM. You are an awesome person WITHOUT him. Please realize that.

Why is he so cold to you? Because he is an immature jacka$$. He isn't that perfect guy you want him to be. The reality is that he's NOT your soulmate. You're missing what you thought you had with this guy. Your missing what you thought he was. Based on the facts, he is not cool, not ready for a relationship, not respectful, not worthy of your time.

What you need to do to get over this, is to take him out of your life for GOOD. You can't take a magic pill and make the pain go away. We've all looked for that and unfortunately it doesn't exist. :(

But if you cut out what is toxic in your life and causing you pain, then you will get through this! There is no way that this guy is good for you. We all can see it. And believe me, there is NOTHING you can do to change him. No matter how much you try, he WILL NOT CHANGE.

I hope you're looking into therapy and building your self esteem, so you don't have to rely on some douche-bag to give you happiness.

You're cool enough on your own.

Good luck

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Registered: 09-28-2006
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:41am
thank you. lately i've been thinking about him but
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 1:49pm

Hi cuteness_17,


You will make yourself crazy if you keep checking his page AND you will make yourself crazy if you try to figure out why he hasn't taken the picture down.

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Registered: 10-28-2007
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 1:12am

He's cold because he's rude.

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Registered: 01-24-2008
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 7:16am

hi,


i know what you're going through. my boyfriend just broke up with me on monday. we were together almost two years and we had lived together for a few months. he goes to school in florida and i live in maryland and he had drove up and stayed with me for 3 weeks, his christmas break.

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Registered: 09-07-2004
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 8:31am
Just a thought on "boyfriend theft".

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