how can I get over him?
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| Tue, 08-14-2007 - 8:06am |
My Fiancee told me he didnt want to be with me a week ago after spending over 2years together, Im in complete shock and really don't know where it has come from. It was only three weeks ago that we had booked the church and reception for our wedding.Everything seemed perfect and he couldn't stop telling me how happy he was.
Then the weekend before last he told me he didnt feel the same way about me anymore and didn't love me. He said he's been thinking about it for a while, which I can't get my head around because of how good things seemed between us. So unwilling to give up I suggested he just takes a week to think things over, It was the hardest week of my life, not being able to contact him and not knowing where I stood.
On sunday we met up to talk, he told me he still had feelings for me but didn't want to get back together. When I asked why he wasn't wiling to give it a try he said it was to late cause he's already told his family and friends. We sat talking as if it wasn't happening and I ended up staying over and sleeping with him. Foolishly I thought it would remind him what we had together but he insisted nothing would change.
To make it worse I recently moved jobs so we could spend more time together, so ive left all my friends and am in a new environment where I don't know anyone. I feel so stupid!
Now I feel so rejected and hurt, im disgusted and ashamed with myself for sleeping with him when he said things were over. I cant stop crying and want to hide away from everyone, I cant bring myself to eat properly or even have a decent conversation with anyone.
Im hurting so much, i really cant understand where its come from. Its hard to get the fact that two weeks ago we were planning our wedding together and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him, now Im on my own and my emotions and head feel all over the place. I feel a constant ache in my chest and stomach. All I can think about is him, all the fun things we did together and how good he made me feel. It feels like im never gonna get over him.
Does anyone know how i'm gonna make myself feel better?

You're suffering from a big shock, it's natural that you're having trouble. It's going to take time, but eventually you'll get to the point where you realize that he can't be right for you because someone who was right for you would never have done that to you.
For now, focus on no contact--the rest will come eventually. And you might consider talking to a counselor--I've found it helpful in breakup situations (such as when a guy I'd been seeing for 18 months just completely disappeared on me).
Sheri
Welcome to the board rache1985,
Everything you feel is normal.